Back To The Future - Friendships, Gay Stuff & The Past

Welcome to she's not doing so well. It's a podcast. I'm Bobby. I'm not the tongue. My tongue is in my throat. I'm gonna try to limit the box to love it. I'm just so awkward at this God. Hello, everybody. Welcome to she's not doing well I'm Bobby. I'm Jim, thank you for joining us again or for your first time. Thank you. Welcome. Well, we don't know we're gonna Hi, yeah, I can't tell what kind of delaine I'm hi Ray, it's fine. I'm only two o'clock in the afternoon. I'm off today. You're off today, and the podcast is off and we're off all around. We're trying to come up with some wearing a T shirt that says hang in with my buds and you can imagine the buds that They're on there. I don't ever I never have I looked at that I walked in I was like, it's one of those days it's one of those days because I've never really had marijuana on my shirt, but now I do. Do you don't I mean like, I've never been like, oh my god for 20 you weren't going to come fast with your job off and you're out. You were like, like with painted my nipples are painted as the best leaves. Okay, honey, I saw this girl with a Pikachu. Oh, I'm sorry on each nipple was one of the red rosy cheeks. Oh, it was kind of fun. She was good. I feel like titties don't look the same nude and you think like even the perky is tips? You see, I know there's a thing called a bra right? Like true to prop them. But like most of these are saggy even when they're young. Does that make sense? Even the young kids they do that way. Yeah, I'm saying like they stated. Like if you ever really big tits, they're dropping no matter what. That's probably true. I mean everything sags. Look at your scrotum. I mean you're down to your knees I need a reduction. You do want to scrub or reduction I actually really do like not a joke can they do that? Yeah, they just like take some plastics. Oh, it's post like how many people are seeing these it's like right now it's you and Michael in June and that's it June doesn't well she's a shower. Yeah, she's seen those she's like are the little hanger knows those little hangers honey she's probably a bad as bad like I'm not even 36 yet and I have low low hangers. I hate how low How low can How low can you go? How low can you go? I don't know how low I just there in the way it's in the everything's in the way I can lie down below I could like tuck them behind me. Oh like other guys in grade school used to call that? Yeah, like the goat or something. They would like talked and say like you look at the go for like that's a really good topic we can talk about why do you again, why do Rate men, they love their genitalia. And they love showing their friends their genitalia, like my friends used to be do the brain and they pull out their balls and squeeze it really tight and open the brain. Oh, yeah, it looks like a brain. Yeah, like you just pull it tight in and like the way your balls are in your sack. It looks like you have a brain. Oh, so like, what parts of the brainstem? And what parts of the brain? I don't think it's that serious. It's more like you just grab the balls and they would put like, but what's happening? Do they they don't rub their penis. Yes, they hide it hold their their dick with their one hand and they grab their balls, but they're doing this in front of you. Yeah. So I'm sorry. But I again, I could go on this theory every day. I could talk about this that there's a lot of guys that have touched deck and if you have you can anonymously tell us. And if you want to if you want to you can come on the show. Honey, you can come on the show. We'll talk to you about your straight, straight mess. Well, this actually goes right into like my catch up of the week. So catching up with Jim. Oh, you have a new segment. Yeah. Catch up with Jim. Well, this came from my partner. So his like, sibling, his sister goes, Hey, I have some questions for you. Like, where's what is the Grindr website? And she spelled it g ri nd er like, Okay. Yeah. And my partner's like, it's not a website. It's an app. And she, okay, I'm just checking because one of my friends is on the app, and we think he's being taken advantage of like, Okay, what is that, like how? She's like, well, he's paying money to some guy, and we're like, we have a what is why is he paying money? Okay, so he's paying money to some guy to get blowjobs We were like, well, that's like prostitution. I don't know that that's not what the whole Yeah, I was like, I think the app is more like just people hooking up for free. I don't think they're charging mutual respect. They're like everybody wants to see everybody you know what I mean? Yeah, she's like, so it's not like looking for a relationship on this app. We're like, oh, gets better story gets better. We find out that what do you say Bogum the story of everybody's life who goes on the grinder? Like I'm gonna find that line? Yeah, you start out thinking that turns out though, that this guy who's paying money for blowjobs is married and said he's straight because then because then my partner sister goes so what is a topper to PP I really love what's a topper topper? So we told her what a topper is, but this guy thinks because he's married and a topper or cuz he only pays for oral things that he is straight thoughts on that? Bobby's like that was me 10 years ago okay. I mean yeah your your area so I'm curious just curious we do hand stuff i don't i don't hook up with other gay guys I hope we're straight guys right now they were gay like when we talked about buds with Dave it's exactly that like you try these people like you met us yeah you just like make like this guy is like I'm married but I'm and I'm only doing oral things with guys or they're giving me oral and then because we are parently not peaceful ladies literally just kidding. He's claiming so he's getting blowjobs and talking from a guy and paying the guy and then also paying claiming that if he were to do things I don't know if he's gonna do it for free. What do you need the topper instead of it I know that all that alone is just we're all a topper when we're curious. We're all toppers here and then all of a sudden you're like wait and stick it in me. Maybe I would like it. This is like pre Fisher. Yeah, this is like back in the day back in the day when it was everything was young and fresh now it's just grimy and just in bloody not working. not working at all. Yep. But yeah, like so. That's funny reading this guy and high level find out cuz like I think she talks to him and he like was like oh I want to tell you though Yeah, because she's got a gay brother bitch, right? Exactly. Gay. He ain't gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, and it's okay. And he's gay. You're gay. And you're okay. Like, you're just like, I mean, I get it except for you're in rural America, rural America. You're married to a woman and all that. Oh, I didn't know he was married. Oh, yeah, I missed the beginning. Honey, you were listening, blacked out, glued out. Your responses are delayed. I got told that last night so it's fine. I was like, well, it's probably because I've smoked weed for the past five days I'm on vacation. But that I want to relax. Relax is not a bra. This is the minimum. Yeah, relax. I'm so relaxing. beer in your comatose. Yeah, exactly. You're blockading which is a phrase we haven't used in a while. No, we haven't. I think about if we had the podcast we went to Brack. Oh, honey, I could have told that story for fucking. I mean, let's catch up with you as if you had just gotten back from BRAC. Let's pretend we just got home and you're telling me Okay, so what? What do you do the past week? Well, we went skiing. by we, I mean, everybody else put me the first day when we got there. It was really in a hurry to get to the mountain. I was like, Well, I haven't skied in years, guys. And I've also gained about 150 pounds since the last time I skied, and I'm about 20 years older. And they were like, okay, yeah, you're fine. Like, we'll be fine. Like, yeah, I'll be fine. And I had the confidence in the world. I get on the skis and I'm like, oh, now we're just going on like a little inlet to the fucking lift. And I'm like, overnight, we had been gone for like half an hour. And we were like, Where's Bobby? All right, right. So then they have been our honey Bobby's missing, right? So they're so The group leaves Jim Michael and our friend, Eric Eric. He's actually been on the show and he's just his name. But he also they're like, we're gonna go ski real quick. I was like, yeah, just go ahead me. So I'm like, okay, fucking I'm getting out of these skis. I'm going down and sitting down waiting for them to come back down. So I took off the skis, everything's great. I mean, it's awkward in ski boots. If you've never done it before, like, it's you can't bend your foot, right at all. So I get to the stairs. And I fucking slip. And I fly. Which PS I just had surgery less than a year before? Yeah, that's true. You just had whole surgery. Yeah, so like, I was scared. I ripped up my whole I had butt pads on though. Thank God so that saved a little bit but so then, um, these Europeans are like, Sir, are you okay? And I already know the thing. I'm fat. Fuck. They're like you fat American. You goddamn fucking nasty bad pig. Yeah, you fat pig. And I'm like, I don't need help. They're like, yeah, they're like grandma. She's, uh, yeah, you do honey. So I finally get down there. I call Am I going I'm like, I fell. We were like, me and Eric are sick. We're like, is he Where is he? Like, did he go get food? I was like, maybe he got a drink like an app pray before the ski. No, that prays down at the bottom of the hill for me. So then I'm like, I'm gonna have to get on the bus. So then get to the top onto this goddamn bus. It's slippery on your fucking boots. I hate it. I fucking hated every minute of it. And by that, I mean, it would have been so much fun. But I don't like the bus gig and I don't like I don't know. I'm just fat. Well, yeah, you didn't mention the part where we have a lift literally out our back door. You don't have to do anything else rode a bus the rest of the week. Right up. Bobby had to ride a bus because I don't know if he would have fit on this lift or No, I was just scared. I couldn't move my Why just I don't know. Normally you don't ever get on a bus. Here's the thing. Here's the thing you did. I wish I would have just like driven to a lesson in the middle of nowhere. There's nobody around so I'm not embarrassed. Right and then learn that way. But the fact that you're in Breckenridge, Colorado where everybody's a skier and everybody knows what the fuck they're doing, and here you are this fucking huge mammoth of a person. They're probably like I'm the Goliath or when they're like The Abominable Snowman here. Yeah, I'm like, I'm looking all trendy. I'm trying to be hot, but like, I'm 300 plus delicato your outfit was I did look hot, but like fire. But that was it. So I called and I was like, Hi, I haven't even used my lift pass and like I fell cleaning and sitting in the condo for four days. Can we? Yeah, so that's where I found my love for marijuana. Um, so that week because we were in Colorado, so of course, I went to the store guy and that was it. I was so scared this that's where she's not going. Going. Well. She's not doing that's where she's not doing so well. He's not going so going around. So bad. Oh boy. How's that got boring there? Oh, yeah. How subrack that literally directly connects dirname everything's connected to that trip. And so So you actually loved the trip. I actually love the trip a lot because it was like we're going see, I'm like, Oh, I was even on a nap and it's high and snowing around you and you have a hot tub. Right? You can just go out to eat every night. It's not bad. I would get drunker than the rest of them because I knew I was skiing the next day. So I feel like blackout. I mean, I like what do you guys want to do? And Jim's like, I'm going to fucking die though. Jim had to sleep in the living room, though. No, you wouldn't. Not after first night. Mine because it was loud. uncomfortable. Oh, don't talk about it. He was bringing up bad memory. Oh my god. I'm kidding. Well, it's all good. It was good memories for me. But I had fun at night. Breckinridge we had a lot of fun. And now we're back. And now we're back on Earth. That was fun visiting catching up with Bobby from three years ago. Yeah, now I know and I can speak normal two years ago. Wow. That's almost three. Yeah, in February. That's crazy. No, that's no way to Yeah, yeah cuz we went to break and then the next year he went to California. That's right. feared me. I just freaked out. I was like I'm older than I thought. I'm really 38 That was a fun catch up though. That was fun. I don't think we ever even told that. Yeah, that's why we needed to like here on the past. Well fuck it. Let's just go to the news then. And now the news. Now, Jim with the news. All right, news story number one, then million moms are added again. I don't know if you know who they are. But um, yeah, there or if you're one of them, I guess I'm supposedly a million trash boxes out there signing petitions to get haulmark to not have LGBTQ characters in their movies. Yeah. So we're going to take the time out during a pandemic to Yeah, sign up. Okay. First of all, yeah, first of all, who's you say? I'm gonna say you say cuz we're about to do a million moms against Hallmark in general because who watches those fucking movies? Now I know there's some gays that love the Hallmark. Really? Yeah, I've tried watching one of their movies and I couldn't get through half an hour. It's like a Lifetime movie. Everyone has the same plot. It's the same sappy yellow I broke up with so and so. And now I'm like, trying to find love again. And it's the holidays. Yes. And oh my god, I met prince charming, but we can't be together because he lives in Saskatchewan. It you it is always in a weird, it's always a weird like connaissez Oh, okay. He lives in Juneau. And I'm in New York City. It's like, Oh, okay. They're just bad movies. Like, let's just say we're buying their bad movies like so they're nothing to be proud of boycotting. To be honest. I signed the million mom thing against the gays because I don't embarrass ourselves. Movies. Sorry, yeah, I don't know if I want my name is Harrison stories in these terrible fucking movies. You know what? Sign the sign in sign. So the best thing on their website it's like 43,000 signers, so not even let me just do the quick math there. So you're a lot short Honey, you're like 900 and 955,000 signatures short of the million mom. Yeah. So we're in 4% grade 4% of your users 4% of your million moms signed. So let's do quick math there with a with a let me do some quick multiple of 10 you're like that's pretty sad. Well, I discussed I literally was like, I can't do it and then I'm like, wait, you just take the decimal place and move it this way. Idiot fucking stupid ass. Yeah, so that's our first story is apparently there's still trash box. Evil moms out there care are offended by LGBTQ people existing. And Heaven forbid we see our stories in the media which we never seen. So, like I'm still I'm of the age where when Brokeback Mountain came out in 2005 I think I had just gone to college and it's you went to some Catholic school and went to some Catholic school and so Brokeback Mountain came out and it was arion on campus in the campus movie theater, which that alone was getting protested like no say tons of protesters on campus. But I went and saw it and was like, in shock. Mm hmm. I do remember the first story you saw on film or TV broke back probably right where you're like where there's actual gay love where there's I saw that Well, okay, yeah, two sides out when you saw it right. There's two sides of it. Actually. I don't even think I saw it before I came out like I was that that was that straight guy. Like I was like I'm not do anything gay. I'm not going to pride. I'm not going to do anytime watch programs, not watch Brokeback. None of it. So when I first saw it, though, it was very, like, Oh, wow. Like, this is what I've been doing, though, in a way. So then it's like, and I was like, Oh my God. These people are never ever going to be able to be together. Yeah, because they can't get over their own society our society can't get over it and obviously like I mean how horrifying and that only holds us code. Oh, I can like the whole thing. Oh wow I forgot oh no it's hitting It's so good. Oh wow I forgot I can't quit you I wish I could or whatever I'm like, oh my god this is horrifying like this. Oh, I just had that feeling like that anxiety feeling like that feeling? Yeah. Oh my god. I can't like I can't quit you. Like I can't quit being gay period. Like that's what I think of when I hear that like, they can't quit you means I can't stop thinking about you because I can't Oh my god, I can't. Oh, God see like it's but like, these million moms don't want these stories out there. They want to pretend we don't exist. That's the problem. Right? They don't know. Like, even if you disagree with someone, you still can't will them out of exist. Do you watch Brokeback Mountain and you tell me you're not intrigued and moved. And if you're not then Fuck you, Karen. Sorry. There you go. All right, next story news story number two. This comes from the Wall Street Journal, which I normally don't read because it's basically Anyways, this headline, the world's best athletes are now better shooting. This is interesting to me because the first time I saw the NBA playing like baseball on this TV, and the entire stadium is empty. It was weird, like bizarre. It was more bizarre than I expected. So, but this story is talking about how in the NBA, they're shooting better when there aren't fans around. Like they're free. And I know it's early in the season. So maybe these numbers haven't played out yet. But also soccer players in Europe, they're doing better in empty stadiums. They're hitting better balls are scoring more. Here's the thing as an ex athlete myself, which I was I played traveling but not a skier I played. I played AAU basketball, okay. It was like competitive Like most of your players play a summer basketball in their in their teens. Oh honey namedropping Thank you I played against Patrick Ewing Jr. For those of you who know who Patrick Ewing is thank you anyway who's on Twitter all stars, but um, so my thing is this I used to get really nervous playing baseball specially or basketball, like fans and people watching and you kind of notice like Who's there? You don't really see it. You definitely do blur it out. But like, you do notice like, oh god, there's like someone's watching her. Oh, God. So can you imagine like 10,000 or 20,000 people watching at once shoot a basketball. You're the only one that's doing anything? Nope. No. I mean, we don't even like being watched walking around the kitchen. Like Like when we introduced for our podcasts a word when like, we're gonna be like, Hi, hey, like it's not happening. We'll do a call and it'll be in college due to the pandemic. We're calling Bobby and Jim couldn't make it but they left you a voice like two years from now we're all vaccinated like, we're gonna have to call I we can't make it work really important. Sorry, no, we have to win this video. Messages just scripted you look better, you do news, et cetera. But I am not too surprised either myself being an athlete in volleyball, actually Yeah, you are. I remember this when daddy was on a hot day we had him on and yeah, we're good but but when people are watching, like someone's like I brought my brother to watch. I'm like, Why? I don't want to know they're way far away from us. I don't want anyone judging. I used to look in this. Yeah, we've been judged our whole lives. We don't want anyone watching us and judging us. Yeah, no, I definitely. Yeah, I can see why I can 100% see when but I can see why some people aren't though. Because Oh, that's the opposite. Like they let the crowd lets them not think too much. Because there's so much noise and like background shit going on and all that they're not Steph Curry. Oh, Steph. Is that is that Wait, this is Seth curry. Or Steph court. Steph. Steph. I don't really like the NBA. If you want to talk hockey, I can talk to you all day long about hockey. Here's what I want you to do. Tell me about hockey. Okay. What is it like in the locker rooms? Um, I'm sure it's very nude. I'm sure I carry showery these Let me tell you some ball hockey players. Okay. Okay. They are very into the sport. They're like the lumberjacks of sport. They don't care. They're so nice even though they're like, pretty rough. There were most of them are very nice like you can meet a hockey player after a game if you really wanted to. Mm hmm. Like in the locker room? Yeah, well outside of the locker room. Okay. I was like, so I arranged that we can get media passes and say we're part of a podcast. Well, now it's changed nobody showering it for anybody to go to LA Fitness. I mean, there's no showers. I know, actually. Oh, yeah. I think God, filthy. But so back to the hockey players been lumber. sexuals Oh, you've pochade amberjack sexual. Oh, no. He's gone. totally lost my shit. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I just thought like, I really want cheesecake. In my mind, I was thinking as I'm explaining sports, I'm like, I really want to, I want an ice cream float. Oh, that's, um so yeah, I mean, I can see why people who are up to bat are able to concentrate better because we weren't going to fucking sock right behind them and blah blah blah. All right, and that's the new Sorry, that was fucking horrifying. Now let's talk about something we don't even know we're talking about. That was the worst audio interference in my life. Okay, we are live right now on Instagram, but we're recording so people can watch later but we got a list of things that people want us to Google and discuss off the cuff and you might know it. You might not know it, but I think we're going to pick a few and just do it. So tell us who sent us senate and all right. And tell me what's a Google? All right. This is from creative girl. It's toejam Oh, I'm gonna google it right now. toad. Toe jam. Toe jam on Google. Oh, oh. Oh my god. We might have. Oh, wait, mine has. Did I spell it wrong? My name is cartoons. Now. I have no cartoons and I want to vomit. Oh, oh. Oh my god. This is so bad. Wait. Oh, is this real? Oh, love picking. Oh, okay. I'm done. All right. Thanks, creative girl. Well, I I cannot I have to stop. I have to look this up. No, how have you still not looked it up. 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Wait, does it stay like get to get it permanently, like just get pushed back in. You can try But it often comes back out so you're permanently like that forever. Oh mean you have the surgery for it doesn't go great. This is horrifying what the hell so you could have so is that from just like having a bad puppy? well over a long time. So you just have had really I couldn't Yeah, so if you do or if you get a tear for a while and then the muscle gets horned then it it's too loose. So we need to talk about these. Okay, so anal prolapse so our listeners our listeners, that freak nasty. Yeah, we just find they want to shock us so we're shocked. Beyond I'm disgusted like I came to drink my beer. Now even though it's 245 on a Tuesday, why can I drink my beer? I can't drink my beer. That well that's Wow. So that's what's in the internet like I don't that was weak. Bring us on more. Oh, God. Now that's discussed born and raised. Ready, honey born and right, this week's topic is gonna get a little personal. Not virgin. This takes off because it is so essential. Okay, this week is for China. No, this week I want to talk about friendships. Okay, in general Yeah, but also like failing friendships and how you're supposed to move on from them or like cope with them and or fix them if that's what it needs to happen needs to happen. So, so I have a friend that used to be a friend, you know this person. Shit and he's a fucking betch sorry. He has a fucking bet I know exactly who it is. So this person was a little comment to a lot of my friends a little comment to me. Stop talking to me. And I hate to use the word tonight but calling you but when you are when you are do our Doom, Doom, Doom Doom, which we found that So this person though is still friends with friends of mine from my hometown. So what do you do about that as like like, right I'm still around but they're not like right it's like you keep popping up on my friends feed liking shit and I'm like, Wait a second. Sorry I heard like a little over shanty has car Outback city. Fucking Shanti Shanti ascar But anyway, so I think friendships are very interesting the fact that like, I believe personally, I personally believe that and usms man's in such maps, I believe that friendships there is a time limit on some on some there's not on some, you know, that person's gonna be there, blah, blah, blah. But on some there's a time limit. And sometimes people come in your life, Jim, you know, you you're like, tick tock, tick tock bitch. It's there's a time limit like time there's a time limit and I know when it's coming. I'm warning you Your time is up. Yeah, like you have 10 seconds remaining is 10 nine. Like Okay, so stop taking it personally psycho. Is it really about them? It's about the friend prior to you. But yeah, so I just think that like, you know, sometimes it's okay to say goodbye to him like sometimes you got to just be like listen this is not working because we're both fighting over nothing we're friends we're not supposed to fight like, especially as an adult like I'm 35 years old. Yeah, there's things that you don't need to well and if this friend was being an asshole to other people yeah, there's only so much I can do to like, the thing is I let I let this person like, live their own life and try to like figure out their own self with their with my friends. Like I don't like to interject. Yeah, but when they're being an asshole to my friends then I'm like, Well, here's the thing. Okay, here's the problem. And it all really started when Michael moved into town. I was wondering if he was used to being the center of your attention homos Yeah, and then all sudden Michaels here and he's like, Like, I was chatting, but you don't wanna hang out on a Wednesday. I'm like, No, no, like, not real actually mean like, you're gonna be cooking dinner for the first time since we traveled four years in a row, or four years, but then he's mad, but then he's mad. Right, right. So it ended and ended without speaking though. It wasn't like a there wasn't a fight. That's how I was gonna say like, there wasn't a fight. How do you end a friendship? You don't it just happens just drifts apart. Yeah. And I think you sort of know what's ending, though. Like I knew at the time, like, well, I don't want to reach out to him. And he's clearly not reaching out to me. So if you feel like it's ended, which is over, I feel like I've had friendships that have drifted apart but have not ended. And it's like a good thing. Because then we're always available for each other. So you have a friend that's like, Oh, yeah, I mean, that's how Yeah, I feel like I have friends where like, we literally just haven't ever hung out in a while. But if either of us ever have time, and we're like, hey, let's hang out. It'll be completely fine. We know I wouldn't even call Yes, like Why it's your fault? How do you then get them to listen to your demands? Hanging out me more? Is that what I'm trying to say? Do you really mean? No? How do you get them to listen to your demands of not hanging out anymore? I don't get what you mean. But like, if you telling them to stop hanging out with you, how do you get them to listen? Basically, but like, when have you told a friend like, stop hanging out with me? Have you gotten random and like, I don't want you to hang out with me. Well, no, actually, other than when you were in kindergarten. Did you ever do. Okay, this brings up a good point. This is where I ignore people. This is a full blackout. I didn't get your call. It starts there. Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't see your text Wyatt. Like when they go. Yes. And it's like 1130 in the morning, hey, and I'm like, Max, you have no plans. That means you have no plan. But you're saying hey, like, Hey, I was thinking good. I'm like wine fest today and just like, okay, but like, I don't want to do that today. I'm like, I'm to an agent. All right. That sporadic especially when I have a partner that sporadic, like, we can do sporadic stuff together with an ad a friend to the mix, like people don't understand when you don't, when you don't have a partner. So you're the friend that doesn't have a partner. Yikes, you really don't understand what it takes to be in this relationship. Well, you don't understand. Like, I get attitude from my partner, when I'm like, hanging out with you even. Oh, well, you just saw him Oh, Friday, and now you're gonna go hang out with him on a Tuesday. And it's like, yeah, like, we have a business. It's fine. Like, I'm famous and I can't help. But yeah, like you, when you're in a relationship. Usually the partner expects you to be around them all the time. And it's like, maybe I don't want to be I think there's in relationships, not to like talk about relationship, but there's one person that always wants to be everything, everything another person and at home all the time with and it's like, I need a few other people. Right? Yeah. So But back to the friendship situation. They don't really understand though. They forget what it's like to be in a relationship or they haven't been in a relationship. Where they had to actually like communicate with their partner? Yeah, so like where are you are like maybe didn't live with their partner. That's another thing when you live with somebody you have to completely like, Hey, babe, what are you thinking about doing later today? Because you assume that you're gonna do something together because that you're together like you're Yeah, it's kind of annoying on that sense, but I'm like, wow, like, Oh, actually, no, I don't want any of that anymore. But no, I mean, you do though that's the thing so the friend is understand that they get all pissy and then you don't want to talk to me wherever since Michael moved here and then I'm like, really? Bitch. I'm gonna be like, bitch, you knew three years that he was coming here. Okay. Plenty of time. But I would I would long distance by mocking psychopathic thing to do. I don't understand the point. I kind of feel like more like, if we're ever back in the same city then we can get together but like, if we're gonna wish we are like, why don't we just live our lives apart? But then we were together though. Yeah, call you do during the week is work. I mean, I work Monday through Friday, so I don't want to do shit anyway during the week. So on the weekends week. each other, each other every weekend for three years. Not every weekend but like, on those weekends in between, I would be like, I need to go out. Well, yeah, so I blacked out with this person. So we'd go out a sponsor, I was always there for that person to like, not actually explore their goals. Right. So I was almost like their other half here. You were there Whitney? Is that what that's called? A Whitney. Yeah. Oh, was like a friend to a gay that has no boyfriend, but they basically bring it back out with you. Oh, let me I've never heard that before. Well, you're welcome. Wow. The community you learn something new every day. So I guess my thing is, was what how do you keep the friendship going? Or do you want it to keep going? Is there a point where you can just say to the person like hey, like this, I think I should be able to be honest and be like, yeah, look like obviously, like there's some things that are there's communication issues, and you know, I'm having to spend more time with my own life. I feel I feel like I'm being broken up. So this is Jim's last one. Yeah, obviously so so you have to move on. Do you agree? Oh, you agree. You agree so so this four, four starts tomorrow as you agree. So season three is your last and today's the last episode of season three. Yeah, you were always just a bud and not one of the main people I don't know you chose that not me. Oh, wow. Bobby, and but I was ready to post bitch here is Bobby and Jim on the fucking website. You dumb ass. Thank God, you probably don't even go to it. Um, so speaking of friendship, say hey, we have to write down what we like about each other. This is gonna be rough. Yeah, we're gonna talk about friendship counseling. There's counseling for me to be honest with you. I think if we absolutely hate each other, that would make the show way better. Yeah, it'd be even better show like bitch fast. So yeah, so friendships suck. Though. Friendships suck in general, especially as an adult. It's actually harder to find friends as an adult. Yeah, I'll tell you sometimes I like Well, my partner has no friend well, and usually meet your friends at the bar and then That person wants you to go to the borrow. It's just like an adult like when they're asking you to come drinking with him on a Tuesday, like at the bar and it's like I actually can't go out drinking every night. Yeah, yeah, like I can't do that anymore. We're not in college. I'm 35 Yeah, like hanging out. playdates is like a lot of work when you're an adult. It's you have to plan everything out of your day around the play date. Like, let me just get the dog watched. Let me get the dog fed. Let me make sure all my boys are dying to see what my partner's doing and I go to bed by 930. Right? And because I've worked tomorrow, but PS I was at work all day long today for 10 hours outside of So literally, I've been gone from the house from 730 Oh, ready to go out. But yeah, let's go hang out. I want to go out hang out with you. Let's go out and I'm counting my points for Weight Watchers. So let's definitely go down here. Let's go. Let's go to dinner because I get an app and a lot of self control. I'm telling you like, this is true, like, fucking Listen, all friendships suck, they suck and they should be based on your available Which I feel like actually be honest with you with our friendship. I feel like we're like see Friday next Friday. That's it. Well, not. No, that's not necessarily true. I mean, we are busy and the thing is your schedule is way different than mine. I'm very, I'm very like are so stable. Very stable, dirty. I'm starting your Saturday. I'm a brick wall. I'm back wall. Yeah. I think the way that we communicate there was like, we'll text her and he's like, Oh, hey, like, Oh, this is a funny meme. Oh, this or we should talk about this. Oh, no demands. Yeah. It's not like a What are you doing? What are you and I don't see you Thursday night at Long Island Thursday, then I'm pissed, right? Wow, God, it's true. Oh, what are you doing? Oh, so you can't hang out? Oh, so you're not Oh, I see. Okay. Oh, and then the other good. And then the other thing is, listen, everybody thinks I'm weird friends. And you are and that's because you steal other people's friends. I do. That's my thing. I mean, I can't but that people like me, right? Usually it's like, usually that's when that friendships fading anyway, and they find me and I'm like, Hi. Oh, it's true. I mean, I can't help it I'm a ray of light you are you kind of just like invite people in. I do but then I'm like just like this podcast and it's like, and then it gets like very there's an awkward phase but then it's fine No, it's awkward phase but then also what happens though in the group of friends that are then brought together is it could be a lot of tension. So that's the silence like a lot of very strong personality people. I do I like people who are like, fall I don't like more bitches sorry. Sorry, but people No, no, not you. Oh, no. Literally All my friends are listening are like yeah, I am kind of a badge. I know. We're all like we're bitches. Yeah, like if I can lie to you guys. I'm a bitch. I mean, your boss, your boss, your boss, your boss. You're gonna shine like floss. So what it says I think so. Okay, no, but I just like people who are opinionated because then I feel like I can kind of like I don't know I'm 20 feel safer. I don't know you feel safe because then if I know I have them on my side, then nobody's ever on your side. You're not losing less. I'm saying because the vegetable and come on be like ah, we're done. Actually I've always been that