I'm a Bear and I am Hot - Gay Educational Terminology

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That's Bob. How are you doing? Great. Never been better. May either. Oh fuck. I keep screwing up this fan. God, turn your fan off Karen. Sorry. I have to have the fan. She's not again. She's always hot. She's not doing swell cause she's always hot. She's overheated. She's going through menopause hot. I was hot weekend. Oh you worry. Yeah, I know you work cause I got a snapchat from a hot tub store. Yeah, I was at the hot tub store. Oh Wow. I want you to lay down in it. I want you to get in it. So we're at the hot tub. So me and my cousin, he saw all over the snapchat cousins weekend cause his cousins weekend. But we were at the hot tub store and this guy walks in and the lady that was working at the counter, I was like, hey Blake, can you help them out? And Heather, Heather looks at him and goes, Oh, oh my. And I go, Oh, I'm gonna go, oh, are you the sales guy? He's like, yeah, and he takes off his glasses. Oh, his eyes are baby blue eyes. And I was like, oh, I'm modern. You're looking at a hot for a hot Tom. He's like, yeah, yeah, that he was really nice. Uh,[inaudible] oh true. Oh, sorry. Oh fuck. He's really honest guy. I mean, I'm in sales, but anyways, he was really nice. He was though, I felt, wow, he's so loud. He's still just me. But the of that fantasy world of those blue eyes, Frank Sinatra just coming at you. Yeah. I mean, he was like, let's go look at this tub over here. And I'm like, okay, I'll go wherever you lead. He's like, are you like to tell my my, uh, cus I'm gonna say patients for some reason. So like I need him to operate on me. Um, I was like, he's like, come over here. I really like my customers to sit in the hot tub. And I'm like, ah, you want me to like fucking climb in the hot tub? Really close. I mean, again, I'm sure some people have seen me on the Instagram, but I'm six foot five. I'm not gonna fit in a hot and I'm fucking 35, so I'm not really as limber as he, I'm not going to hop over like a fucking fence. Like, oh, climb the ladder, get in. So there I am climbing the stairs. He's like, lay down right here. And I'm like, oh wow. And meanwhile Heather's taking pictures of the whole thing. Yeah. Cause that's how I saw, I was like, who's this hot? Yeah. Heather's heating gym. Uptick up to date, play by play. And I'm like, ah, ah, this is a really great hot tub. Yeah. I mean it was insane. He shouldn't have worn gym shorts. Oh, I, this is amazing. I'm like, oh, I can't lay down. No, not right now. Not, not now. Not going to be for awhile. Let me tell you, he, he got the sale, I think. Well now that I've explained to you how salesman work now. Yeah, he got that sale. Oh, he got it. And did he, well, we haven't closed the deal yet, but there's some more negotiating that needs to be done. Right. Oh Wow. Down a little more. I need a little more money knocked down. What can we do? What do I need to do to get$1,000 off this prize? Like, I mean nothing. I mean, there's literally nothing you could do that would do it. And I'm like, oh my God, my cousin yours. Well, and I feel like she'd be right on board. She, she would, she'd be like, how much I should call her and be like, excuse me. But I won't call her tonight. We'll call her another night. She's gonna actually, she's gonna been on the story. She's coming back. Oh me again. Some will do like she is doing her, she's something else. But anyway, so that was the story of the weekend. Like I mean he was the story of the weekend. Yeah look I've, I stopped him, changed my life lies, talked to him on Facebook today cause it's like my other back to back[inaudible] it was in person. The Universe is coming back to you or they're talking back to you. God, I need to make a list and be like, I really want Blake to deliver the hot tub and get in it. Like God your wallet is filled with lists. Like it is actually one time I left my wallet at work and I was like Oh my God, if somebody sees this list cause so Yay. Yup. There. Oh wait. They don't know at work. Well No, now they do. Yeah they do. Oh wait no, most of them do. I don't believe that. Okay. If he, okay, but why were you worried about the list then? Just cause they're a little, you know like I put low cut on likes, beefy likes lavey big, just weird shit like that. Yeah. Big personnel center, good listener, communicator. You know the things that you don't really get most of the time your way shamed dove like who are you kidding? Anyway, so yeah, that was the fucking weekend. Wow. Blake Blake made my day. Hell no, I know that. But yeah it did cause you were like, Whoa, is this, and you were ready to come into the hot tub store jam. I was gonna climb right in and lay down flat. Like I'll be there in five minutes. I'm like, you're, I'm out in nine city. What am following the Instagram story? I know where you are. I'm outside back from wherever the hell he was. And he's like the south, south side, south side. I don't know. This is in Chicago is that, there's a lot of south sides I guess for the erection directions everywhere. I mean if we're in a center of a city, you go on south side. You're not even in the south side ever. Anyway. We're going, I don't go there now. Who goes to this? I don't go there. I don't go. South sides are not, I mean I'm, this is not me being like aren't very nice. I know. That's why I'm saying I don't go there. Well guess where I went? Oh my God. Where? For another street interview? No, no wait, is this at another bar? It's at another bar. It's with an older gentleman. Okay. And actually I asked him if he would ever want to be on the podcast cause I want to get a perspective of an older day. An auntie. Oh for sure. An auntie. And what's an Auntie? And the Auntie is an older, often a feminine and Gossipy Gay Man. He's not that a feminine though, but he's gossipy as fuck. And that's why I love home. Thank God we have the definitions. He's really good at gardening too. So I mean, I guess it's colleagues. He, that's cool. I kind of like that. Yeah, I needed help. And are cucumbers, pepper know like Japanese willows? Sheldon willow was, what's that? Wasn't mold. I don't know. It's like a Japanese tree or something. Maples. Maybe it was like never in a Japanese willow a year. I don't know. Again, I'm not really like the, I like to pay people to do the yard work. I'm not[inaudible], I'm not even old. I need to it. I need to quit saying that you're not. I'm actually a young and like vibrant. I'm filling every class I ever have. You're 28 and you're young. 20 at heart. And honestly I look 28 so what do I do from the waist down? Wow. I am noticing wrinkles lately and I don't even know what that means either. Like I'm like, I'm trying to figure that out. Like I just, if anything I'd say neck up. I'm fucking 28 and the rest is just, I don't know what age all I'm getting there. I looked at this factory. You have gray hair? Yeah, it's hot, but it's gray. It's that bad. No, I just mean like it's, I'm becoming wise. Yeah. And it's like a by line in the face or you got struck by lightning. It is. I have a patch. I have my little gray patch. He's got a patch. I looked hot as shit this last weekend. Now I saw you in the pool with your truly, yeah. And it was that trip. Everything. I mean, grant would've been proud. Grant. We need grant on this show. Grant, if you're listening, please call the hotline. We didn't actually, we know you're not listening. You're not listening. But we did tag you in one and you liked it. She's hosting it. Mickey's like she doesn't have time. Oh, I'm gonna ask Grant Vanderbilt to call her number. I'm going to ask, oh wait, what? I'm going to do it. No, I'm going to ask them. Say, can you just call our number and[inaudible] too. I just got nervous. Hey, stop. Don't do that. How, where to turn. We're not there yet. It's like our Instagram crush. Like, I mean, you need to go follow at grant Vanderbilt if you want to see, just are the wall party are joy, joy and I love her. I know. Um, I so, okay. Don't do it. We gotta listen to the Stream interview. Yeah, I drum off to play your mom. This is an earmark moment and if you ear muffs and tissues, oh my God, here it is.

Okay. We're at the bar and I have two people here. I'm going to ask some random questions. They're talking like, hi. When I say Dick, what do you say? Penis. What is your first thought? When I say debt? Wow. Okay. I need you to give me your best whale call. I have to think about that, honey. It's a whale call. Yeah, just what is a whale? That's contestant one. That's contested number one. That's here. Contestant number two. Whoa. He has no fucking clue. So y'all, it's Oh, it's in there. Hit it. Okay. I have another question. What's your craziest sexual experience? Um, I don't want to discuss that. What's your craziest sexual experience and Gang Fox and friends. Shirts. Steeple. Looking up at the cross scene now. Oh my God, that is so hot. I got to talk to friends. He use this in the middle of the night. It was all lit up. The Cross is lit up. Yeah. I looked up, I'm like, Oh God. Burdened Hell. But yeah, Greensburg. Oh Wow. Perfect. For the one and only time I ever had because that tick was so big. It tore me up. I'd never let you. Yeah. I never lay one pike me up. How big do you think his dick was or do you think it was just because it was there now? It was big, like 10 it was uncut and no loo. That's probably what you call it when you're not a bottom. Well, this has been another drunk interview with rob.

Oh my God. I mean, let me just say this, I sound really like, I'm like, you're like almost slurring. It was bad, but I did stroke out maybe, but I got a good interview. I feel like, I mean you that was beyond good beyond like, I was like, oh my God, is this happening? What's happening there? I think I would have fallen over. Yeah, you wouldn't be able to handle it. You'd been like, like, oh yeah, wait, wait, what? What was that about? Where he particularly got to that base, whatever base that was a home run in front of? No, in front of you apparently was outside the church and like the light was hitting the cross or something. Oh, this whole time I've been picturing him in the church. I was like in the Manger and Oh yeah, it's at Christmas. I got fucked in the main, I'm sorry. That's so[inaudible]. Sorry, I forgot. And tissues and Tish, that's gonna make my mom cry. She's like, Oh God, Bobby, you really ruined it. Yeah, sorry. But anyway, well, Yup, that was their street interview this week. Oh my God. This episode I guy. But yeah, so outside like looking up at the stained glass, the beautiful stained glass, you're looking at that stained glass Notredame burning down to the ground. Oh, and you're getting fucked in front of Jesus and you're getting, I wish that could be the name of that, but it can't. I mean with an asterix, like a star, ain't I right in that. I feel like that's going to be real controversial, but maybe that'll get owl. I'll take the u out. Yeah, yeah. Actually maybe we'll see. But this episode is a good one. I think John, Jesus, maybe we can add a word from this episode because this episode is an educational one. This is educational for the folks out there who don't necessarily know the gay terminology and and s sometimes it's us, it's us as well. It changes to expanding because like I will like at the more you're like, okay I'm fine with being gay and then you hang out with other gay people move. Then you start to realize like, oh wait, I'm not all these terms. I didn't even know about like growing up, I didn't know about bright. Like I didn't know that I was hot. Oh Wow. Thank you. I'm a hot bear. I will tag[inaudible] people are like go by the official Gnocchi mountains here a large often hairy gay man, but I'm not that hairy but I'm large. You're large and in charge I'm six foot five. I can walk in a room and everybody sees me and that's not necessarily a good thing all the time. Yeah, your enemies, you're like, I can't turn away to show the other weekend and like, oh you fuck out. We're freaked out because we were in the front row. Oh my God. Cause you're begging people will see you all those today. Well first of all, yeah, I'm pissed which we need to talk to on my neighbor. Your neighbor who's in charge of these shows needs to figure out a way to not try to slam everybody in one the people like we are sardines and like we couldn't go anywhere and I was drinking move. I'll have in the bathroom. Well let me do gymnastics to get out of there again. Again, six, five, just pictures. Six, five guy doing the split. Same everything else. It was not cute. I could not be hot at that point, but I did that. You are hot. I'm hot. But you're intrinsically hot. But I'm hot cause I'm hot in my community, which I did. And this is why this, and that's the other thing, like I didn't eat. This is why I'm hot. Hot Cause you're not. This is why. This is why, this is why I'm hot. Like we said, we're in our twenties and that song just came out. Yeah. I mean, oh we're aging ourselves. We're like, they're like that big. Google it. What's, this is why I'm hot. Yeah. Like they're leery. They're like, um, is that like Kellyann or whatever or is that from, no, I know I promised last episode. This wouldn't happen, but it happened again. Unfortunately. We were, I was like really happy with the Spotify and I played, this is why I'm hot by like mims or something, but I'm cutting it out again because I do not want to get sued back to the show. Sorry. Before we have to start paying royalties to that person. I don't know. It's a club. I know it's a club. It's just a clip. And if we have to bleep it out, we will. But I mean, I'm advertising for somebody who hasn't been in the game since 2002 so I don't probably, sorry. I don't even know who it seems. It's like I don't either. And we don't eat it. Now mims, sorry man. This, this guy's probably on death row.[inaudible] the moms are coming. Moms and moms need these nuns. Um, so at any ways, Jim, I don't, let's, let's talk about like, I guess, okay. What are the common ones? I'm, we're on a common one. Let's start with one of my favorite twink. Twink. Okay. And the definition of twinks. So at 20 cause a small or young looking body, bodily hairless man. Oh Wow. That's not what I would assume. Like when I was small and young and still had hair, I was called a twink c in my world and my days I was the twain honey. And you're an auditor the whole time. What's an honor and honor? Nice. Might still be an honor. Inner hairier gay man. Okay, so I'm not a nodder and here we're going to try to find out what Jim is. Are you a fruit? A slur against game and, oh, that's mean. Okay. That's it. Just fuck that. Fudge packer. Wow. This list is so bad. We should just go through it a little bit. 100 footer and obviously obviously gay or lesbian person. That's me. I don't like these. I don't like this list either. What is this like eighth grade all over again? I don't need to hear all the terms. Maybe gay. That's like, I mean, yeah, like I remember like, oh, he's a baby gay. I'm like, what does that mean? That's when you were crying in the park at one day after your one day you were a baby gay. That's a baby gay move. I remember being a baby gay. It was, oh, that was rough. That's like the best worst time. Cause you're like, hey, take your learning. You're like, oh my God, look, the first pride I went to all the kisses, the babies, it pride. They're so proud. And then now I'm like, man, like it's hot out. I'm tired. I'm like, gladly. And I need to, I'm hungry. We need to make sure we eat before we go to the parade. Yet like that past you. I didn't even go. I had a[inaudible] like in the middle of nowhere. So you are old. You're going to weddings. I was like, fuck that. I'm sorry. I'm over weddings. I know. Um, I'm trying to look at this list, but I mean, what's it, oh, what is it? A Baird. A Baird. The beard. Beard is a person used as a date romantic partner or spouse. Did you ever heard a beard? I didn't have to call her over. My fiance had a beard. Yes, he did. He can't grow one now, but he had a beard. Married to a woman. Whoa. Yeah. Imagine that. Well, you can't imagine that. Yeah. I mean you used to do it. Date the women. I know I had beards all over the place. You had beards?[inaudible] now hot. Oh yeah, I'm a bear honey. You got to have a beard. You got to have a beard when you're older. I wish mine was better, but any word a Baird, he had his own him in Baird. It isn't Baird. Um, but yeah, I used to have, um, what do they call it? Fucking beards. No, you know, beard. I mean I would find the hottest girls to, to be my beard and my, my straight friends would be like, flex dude. Fuck, she's hot. I'm like, oh right. I'm like, girl, no, I never said that. But I was like, let's go watch. They'd be like, how do you get to talk to her so much? I'm like, listen, like you started singing along to Celine Dion at the end of that one movie and then she was like, wow, we're going to protect me. Because I'm six foot five, but you're queer. Let's look up queer. What is, is queer bad or good now? Originally a slur against homosexuals, transgender persons and anyone who does not fit society standards. So batters, reclaim though. It's reclaimed us a positive. So good. So like, you know, people say this is a queer space, this is why we're but, but, but who's calling you clear? But we used to not call, I don't think gay and lesbians and everybody, some random from one of your towns in the south called you queer. Is that like I'm queen. Yeah, I wouldn't like that. I'd be like, you're annoying. But at the same time, I think gay and lesbian people and transgender people and everybody in our community are kind of switching it over to be like, yeah, this is a queer space. I like, fuck. Are you like it now? I did too. I don't, I'm kind of proud to be queer. You know, I've never been fond of the word, just to be honest. Like I know I didn't, and that's just my own, um, homophobia coming out to be honest with you. Because even though I'm gay, I still have homophobia because I was raised not by my parents necessarily, but this society I was in raised me to be homophobic against myself. So it's true. Um, I just saw a muff diver on here, on this list that's in the lesbian. Wow. I wonder how they liked that. Right. Let's don't even name who calls the vagina on Milo princess. A lesbian who bottoms during sex but never tops. So we learned about bottoms last episode. Oh wait, can we look up that on here? I mean, I already explained it, but I just want another pot like their insertive bottom receptive. They're called c but it looked like a passive male partner seat and no, no, no. We don't have to start the whole passive thing cause the power is not passive. See if they have a power bar, they don't even a power bottom on this list. This list is bullshit. It's less, less. Here's bullshit where just trying to educate, which I feel like we're doing in a way. We're trying, we're trying, um, you know, terms that I'm like, they have like polar bears. Yeah. Actually know a polar bear, like grant is like granddaddy bear, he'll gruff you. So do you know what yeah, like wolf? Yeah, he'll WAF hills. I mean all these sounds that I guess dogs make, but sometimes that's our, oh my God, I forgot about that. Why? It's like a pup. What's it? Pop Wolf. Wait, what's a pup? Wolf? A pop is somebody, I think it's a younger guy who, I mean, when I was in a big city, I was in Chicago visiting. Oh. Oh. And I was at this bar. It was in a basement. But I mean I should have expected this, but we walk in and man, right. It was kind of seedy, but I walk in and there's dog bowls on the bar. Okay. And literally there's guys on like chains with their master next to them drinking the beer out of the bowl instead of a dreamlike God where they wearing leather like masks. Like I've seen this one time, I'm trying to think of where it, I don't remember, but maybe our local gay bar probably[inaudible]. Yeah, we did. So that's a pup. I didn't know that was a pop. And so you get dragged around on a chain, your dad, you want to be sort of, I think it's like a domination thing, but it's like a public dominate. Like you want to, you want to be owned. But like how much beer can you drink out of a dog bowl? I Dunno. Like I don't recommend it. I mean good for them to like, I want to enjoy my beer. It's the spice of life. Yeah. Like you do what you do. Right. There's no shock me by white claw. This is spice of life. But yeah, I that was something bizarre, but at the same time, like now I think, oh, I'm a big puppy and totally support it. Now. I'm not a fucking pop. Like, no, I'd be a pup. You would not. It'd be the pub actually would you? You'd be a full grown dog. Yeah. I'm not plumpy hot bitch. I'm too big to be a pup, you can't drag me around. Why is that a great Dame? I'm a dog. I'm now a god. Yeah, dog. So that's something that I've run into. Um, what are other terms that we've learned like through, I mean like everybody knows what a drag queen is. Drag King, drag king, that's a good term. And that's a thing and that's actually getting more popular goal, but now it's very pop. It's very popular. But it's women who are dressing up as men, just like a drag queen dresses up a man dressing like a woman. So we've seen a lot of those actually. And it's entertaining and it's very interesting because I feel like it lets people create a character sort of. Yeah, that's, yeah. And I, and I think it's great that other people can get involved in it. Not just like drag queens and drag like a big thing now, which I never thought I'd ever be in a drag now. I didn't buy it the first time. Someone was like, let's go to a drag show. I love, I remember just looking at them like, are you fucking kidding rag right? I don't, same. I'm uncomfortable around it. Like I don't like that. Why does it drag? Ooh, I'm know there's something you see like on the stage you're like, oh, I guess I'll take a picture with them. Right. Then you don't realize it's like an art form, an art form and so, but now it's like I want to go to, all these shows were popular performing. I would go see drag every weekend if I could. Honestly, I kind of do now. We do and now we do. If you go to the right bar, she will follow us on Instagram. I'll stream it live probably at one. You'll be interviewing drag queens. That's exactly what I want to do and I also want to interview like grant grant. We were talking about grant factor. A minute. We're back to that. We'll win or it's going to, okay. It's going to happen. It has to happen. The universe. I'm going to put a little note in my wallet in this Magic Wall. I need a man. I need a bag. I'm going to do it for real. I'm going, I want to see you, right. I'm going to watch you write it down. Writers write it. I'm going to, I'm going to write your paper out grant. Okay. We'll call our message also. Right? What if we call grant, what if we call Greg? Let's say that, let's put, we also, we will call grant. Okay. Oh my God, I'll be scared to go deaf. I'm putting it. Oh, it's like it, it's fine. Oh, it doesn't look good, Dick. You're a dick. Is that coincidence? I don't know. I don't know. But um, yeah, so there's also like some, I mean I definitely want to have some transgender people on our show because I feel like that's a very, that's an ex friends here. It is. And to be honest with you, I think it's so brave for these people too. I can only understand so much. Yeah. And being gay, we kind of understand like we're diff, there's different something different about them in their heads that like they've gotta be them through selves. Like we have to be our true selves. So I cannot ever, like I cannot explain part of our family but like wow. But I want to know from the mouth of them. Yeah. W that sounded weird, but mouth their mouth, what? It's what it's like to be transgender in today's society. Here's the whole problem is I know even people close to me who totally are fine with me but don't understand what, what is transgender? What does that mean? Well, wait a second, I mean man is a man and a woman's a woman. I understand Coors. Yes. Yeah. It's like, like, no love is love, but what a man is a man, I still don't get these transgenders, you know? Wow. We have some education to do. Like we've got to, it's going to be a lot of work. It's a lot of work. It's going to take a long, I mean, as long as it took for people to realize that it's okay to be gay, we're going to do, I mean, it's happening. I mean, it's starting to be, it seems like it's, I don't want to say, talked about, talked about and I feel like we're, we're at in our community, especially our LGBTQ community here. Um, it's very open and yeah, like to me it's not even a thing. Okay. Well like the shows we go to theirs regularly feature transgender performed. I want to know, I mean it's great. There's one performer in particular that I want to talk to. Okay. I want to talk to her too. Do we want to say her name? We can say it. We can say it. Roxy Nicole. Okay. She's amazing. She's amazing. And I want to talk to her about w at what point did she realize that it wasn't, cause I think, I don't know and I want her to tell her story so I'm not going to play or I don't know the stuff I'm going to say. I want to know her story from start to finish. Like was it, did you start out in, cause I know a lot of tr um, trans people are, they start out in drag and then it turns into some trans performers. Who on Ru Paul that, that are started? Yeah. Even, yeah. Are you talking about Jia? Jia peppermint. Oh really? There's another one. Yeah. So like for me, like they experimented with dressing and looking like a woman presenting as a woman and then realize we're actually our women. Yeah. Which is, that's okay. That's cool. I didn't know that. So it's like they, you know, yeah, I said Geo was like the only one and oh no, this is more common. Like I like Roxy Nicole, she's like one of my favorite ones to perform and she's, I mean she still is like a character until too, like, I mean hot, she's hot. I mean, she's so hot. We'll just say that. I mean she, the night that was watching a video on her Instagram and she was like grabbing this guy's head and like kind of did it. I was like, this girl is hot as fuck. Like I was secretly hoping she'd do that to me, but I had a p winter, her one act when I was like, damn it. I know the ones a member would Valerie, oh my God, me Winehouse. She was so definitely got to give her a follow. She's awesome. And I don't even know her. That's the thing. I don't know her. I've seen her around, but I've never been brave enough to go up to Oregon. I know. I need to start getting not so scared. I know. We're going to work through this. We are. We already talked about this. Yeah, we do. We're wanting to talk. I don't care. So, um, so drag kings are a thing. What else does that let it drag chubby chasers. But that's like a straight thing too. I think it is. I know a lot of like guys, straight guys who are into bigger women and make bigger men too. Oh, thank you. Oh No. Remember craigslist, craigslist stories, craigslist. There's many men everywhere and they're like, Ooh, you're beefy death. Like you're a beefy boy. I'm like, yeah, I am. That's before I even knew what a bear was. I was like, oh, I'm beefy. Oh, you didn't know you were a bear. No. And then I found the bear community. I was like, oh wow. I'm like, well, the bear couldn't be, by the way, I just have to say this. They seem to be more welcoming in general. They are like, we don't give a fuck about body shaming. It's just about living your life. It's really nice to walk into a room and not feel like a piece of shit when all these little twinkie assholes are like, oh, why you at the bar? Oh God. Fat Ass SAS Shirt is too tight. Like hmm. And you go to a bear butter and eat it and it's like anything, anything goes. Women can go there. Like anything. They accept everyone. The bears have a good time. Yeah. We always get clumped with leather too. That's another thing. Leather. Ooh. Other like the Folsom street fair in San Francisco. I never been, I was there last year. Go to the, missed it by a week. I didn't know. I don't know. There's really, there's some third base, third base out in the streets. It's on the streets and everything's visible. So it's a free loving the leather community is, that's a big community. But that's kind of ties in with the pop thing too. Yeah. Wearing the leather mask. Oh, a cub. I know I'm talking about whole like bare things, but a cub is like a smaller, um, it's basically about to be a bear. So like comes on younger. Yeah. So younger bear, you want me to see what it says to be exactly back to this terrible. Why can't I read? Can't read a typically heavier hairier and younger gay man. So it's like somebody who, so it was me and I was 21 I'd be, I'd be a com, but usually they're younger and not as hairy as four years ago. Just four years ago when I was 20 it's weird and I couldn't, I always got time flies. Who am I kidding? I posted on 35 on our[inaudible], but I'm proud of it because out there I'm an old bear. I'm a polar bear. I'm not yet. I want to be a daddy before that. What about a Zadie? What's a gang? I think that's an everything thing. I think it is too, because on Instagram, oh my Instagram is apparently our bible. Did you? I found something. You gotta can't say it. Yeah, you did. I knew it. You, sorry, I have to share this. And it's nothing against lesbians, but you hold lesbian, lesbian, who quickly moves to cohabitation. So all lesbians. Oh, oh. He said it gem. Jim's had 20 white claws. I just, I didn't know there was a term I thought that was just like a joke like oh yeah, okay, so that's an educational thing. So apparently lesbians move in quickly and move out quickly that same easily get married and divorced in the same week. That's just what's on the streets. We can't confirm. We will heard in some street interviews we really need to focus on getting interviews with all these kind of different people. That would actually be kind of fun. That's a good idea. I am not let's talk to a lesbian and see do they really move in that quickly? Yeah. Why is that even a joke if I wonder if it's, I'm not about to get deep but I'm going to, okay. I want to hear it. Tissue, tissue time, tissue time. But I wonder if it's because they have like a womanly instinct and it's to like, like not to like to near cheer, nurture and nest. So like it's natural for them to like want to take the other end. Have you ever seen like the lesbians who up like proposed to each other at the same time? I have seen there's a lot of videos and video. There's a video of them. So it's almost like they have this instinctual like they want to have a home kind of deal. Wow. That's what I think. Yeah. And men, they just want to procreate. So they just sounds like society telling us how women should act and what their instincts are. Right. That's, oh no, that's okay. I'm, I'm, I'm not as educated as I sound. Just kidding. I'm learning to find the gender roles I did and I just did it. And that's, that's, I mean, there we go there. It's what I need you out and we're going to do it. Yeah. But that's what I want out of this because I want to learn the different terms of different things that would be appropriate in public and it's all fun. And Games like[inaudible] it's funny to call lesbian you hall lesbian, right? Like that's a joke. It's not something that's like derogatory in my opinion. Like, now you can call me a beefy bear or you can call me a fucking butch queen or whatever. Call me. I don't know which Queen I think that's on here. Oh wait, clean. Moving too fast. A beach bit. I gave him who frequent speeches, the zords. Oh my God, this list is the worst. Don't go to Wikipedia and type in like gay slang cause like we did here. We're like, let's educate them. And now we're like, what the fuck is where we think we're educated. We need to educate. Wikipedia is really happening is we're educating ourselves there. We're like, oh are we kidding? Oh we're growers dean. I was deep shit. So d, so d. So d, um, I don't know. Is there any other things you want to discuss as far as like, um, what we need to educate? Maybe our straight listener, let's, let's do some terms. I want to talk about what it's like to prep. Oh yeah. Ooh, well there's this really pre prep prep. Well there's two different, exactly. There's two types of prep. There's one prep that's an activity that you have to do or my, you really want me to tell my prep story. I want you to tell your prep story one time. Sandy. Yeah, I was on Craig's list. No, I'm just kidding. All of his stories start with[inaudible]. Prepping is if you're going to bottom nightmare, it's a nightmare. It's time consuming is what it is. Yeah. I mean, and you know what I'm going to say this, anal sex is very big for women now too. There's a lot of straight women that I've talked to, they're like, oh, I have to repair that. We're having anal tonight. And of course it always has to be like, it can't really be a surprise. I mean it can be a surprise party, but and like who are we kidding? It is. It's usually a surprise. What is, what's happening back there? Like, I mean it's not, you can only clean it up so much. Biology. Biology, right. I mean it is what it is. So you've got to really prep. So what I do is I use an anima. Oh Wow. Yeah. And I mean that shit out. Literally, literally, no pun intended. And I know this is a little graphic, but we should have said earmuffs before. We'll say it now. Earmuffs, tissues, tissues, toilet paper.[inaudible]. But yeah, it's definitely something that um, is important to be honest. Well it makes you feel more comfortable. That's what it's all about. It's true. Yeah. As the, as a bottom and the show that, but as a top two you want, I mean personally, I mean you want the situation to be presentable or control under control, but our nature happen. Nature happens and there's no getting around it. And a lot of girls who I've talked to, they're like, they weren't prepared. I was going to show on his deck and I'm like, listen, you've got to prepare for that so you don't, you've got to relax where it's not going to be enjoyable for you. Yeah. I don't even know why it's enjoyable for women anyway. I guess they can hit their vagina too. Like, well, I've actually heard numerous stories. I'm not going to go, we're going to keep it PG 13 no, no. We already said sorry, over tissues and toilet paper, ear ear mugs, mugs. So what's the other type of prep I tell you about it. Yeah. Okay. Well, there is a pill that anyone can take anyone at risk of acquiring HIV and is anybody. It's not just gay. Literally anyone. So everybody in all y'all out there, you think I am not at risk. Well you need to get tested. Surprise Party. There's guys that sleep with guys and then go home and sleep with her. Yeah, they're exactly as Bobby can tell us there are excellence is popping with the married. Been married. Dudes are out there too. So always get tested. It's not that hard. Yeah, I know it might be frightening, but just get a job was the worst shit done that, you know, it's such a stigma in our community and they really shouldn't be. It's really actually to a point now where if you're an an, I mean I need to probably get, I mean I should get tested more often.[inaudible] arguments for relationship. Like I think I'd go every practice, right? I mean it's, it's not a death sentence like it used to be at all. And in fact you hear HIV and you think, oh my God, it's not what it not even close. No, not at all. Okay. Like now we're at the point where we have one pill regimens. You take a pill once a day, just like your blood pressure pill, just like your pill for diabetes. And your viral load will be undetectable. Undetectable, which means it's basically like you can't transmit it right now. We know we have studies after studies showing if you're undetectable you are untransmissable which means so weak you can't pass it on. So if you're not getting tested cause you're scared you have it, then you're just really gonna end up. If you do have it, you're, your viral load is going to be higher. Yeah. Your bottom speaking like a wash, don't think you, oh your viral load would be higher, which means you're gay. You're up more or less likely to transmit it and transmit it. Yeah. So in conclusion get tested, but also you can get out of now and once, you know, if you are positive it's, you can get treatment. It's, yeah. And you can live a long life. Yup. You really can. The stigma's gotta stop. So there's a pill called prep. Yup. And it's essentially one of the medicines that we use commonly to treat HIV. No. And you take it once a day and it cuts down your risk of acquiring HIV by 95 plus percent. So do you know the stories have HIV that do they take prep to or it's like a different like, yeah. So the medicine in prep is usually part of the regimen use to treat the HIV that they gotcha. Gotcha. So it's just one of the drugs used to treat HIV has been found to prevent transmission, prevent the virus from infecting. Gotcha. You. So if you take this one medicine, which we call prep, which is pre exposure prophylaxis, shortened down to prep. Wow. Yeah. Wow. Pre exposure prophylaxis. So you're taking it before you're exposed to prevent it. Right. So that's why preexposure prophylaxis. Yeah. Prep comes from. You're not like preparing for it. You're trying to preparing against it, but also, yeah, I mean that's, that's how this is. This is gonna wrap it. I mean like, yeah, you gotta be a part of, you can prevent it from spreading by either treating someone who has it and keeping them untransmissable by keeping them undetectable. If you think about it. Yeah. Cause I can completely stop it. We just have to treat it and we gotta eliminate the stigma about getting tested, about being positive. Right. You're right. I really do think we could eliminate this virus from, I think we can too. Yeah. And I look at like the shows like pose, I just started watching it and, and ATL Garvey is, uh, it's at that time in history where suddenly all the sudden it's like, what is HIV? What is happening? We didn't call it HIV then, but yeah. How scary to think like that? Like your friends are dying, right? Like right now, if I was a lawyer from, by the way, I have like a weird bug by what is that? And then all of a sudden it's like it's really a rash that's like spreading and then all sudden I have this thing or why do I have this rare skin cancer? Oh, it's really scary. Like something we don't know how it's transmitted. We don't even know what it is. And even though it was a virus, like you think that your wow. Yeah, we're getting really deep. Oh Wow. We just went from slang terms to the 1980s horror. Yeah, but that's also important. Prep is the term that you might hear me. You're going to be like, what's what's prep and now you're educated and I've seen commercials for prep now and I'm like, I'm on the pill, I'm on the pill, I'm on the pill, I'm on the pill. I don't want to get pregnant. It's not that pill, honey. Yeah. Rod Hill. Again, everybody can take the pill. Anyone can take prep. Yeah. Anyone at risk can take it when it's just anybody who's having any starboard. It's covered by most insurance. I mean, do they ask your doctor about random? Yeah. I mean, I don't know if you know this answer, but do you know if like, did they tell the drug users to use prep? Yeah. You can use ads. Crazy. Yeah. But that's also how it's going to rap. Like how it's going to eliminate any way it's spread. Yeah. Wow. Wow. We just educated ourselves as playing[inaudible] like we just want an a deep dive. But I feel like that was a really good conversation cause I feel like that's something that a lot of people either don't want to talk about or, but it's, it's, I've been on prep in the past, so, yeah. Awesome. Totally. I don't see why there's, the side effects are minimal. If anything, I didn't have any, I guess some people do you know how they have to report everything? So, right. There's always a slip of paper was the whole bottle with like 100,000 things that are on it. But yeah, cause bleeding may count[inaudible] at the very end of the commercial it's like, oh no, I'm always on drugs. I'm going like, um, well my Lexapro and my Wellbutrin effect prep. And if I, if I have Alegra and like I'm a mass. Yeah. It's like, oh no. Oh Wow. But yeah, it's come on our slang terms. We're learning something new every day. We hope you learned something on this episode. Same. And I mean come back and join us. Come back. Right. Come back please. We really like hanging out with you anyway. So we'll see you on next week's episode. Yeah. Or this might be a package of three. Who knows? I think it is. We're going to see you on whatever episode we see you on next.

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