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Welcome to another episode of she is not doing so well. I'm Bobby. I'm Jim. Thanks for coming back. Hi. Hi everyone. We've had such a great week. We have, it's been fun. It's been fun. First of all, I think we're all doing apology. Oh yeah, yeah. I'm sorry. Last week I was very, very inappropriate with the word fuck. I'll just, I'm just saying it now now. Like we gotta make it clear so everyone knows. I also like to apologize to my parents for calling them a bitch, but it was endearing, but like maybe it wasn't so cute like Christmas presents for you. It's like, uh, they're like, you just called both of your parents a bitch. And I'm like, Oh God. I really sound like an asshole this term of dear man. I know. So I'm going to try and limit the fucks to 10. You're going to get that two already about sane. So I'm going to really try hard to watch my language. This episode. I'm really sorry for, I just get really hyped up and then I like you. I don't know. I just want to be free. You know what I mean? Break free. I couldn't spit last episode. I was very like, I felt like there's something in my lip or something like that though. It's just a minor stroke. That's just me. I'm trying to learn how to speak more clear and to speak a little bit slower. See 98 so that you know what, what? Oh, okay. Well thank you. Because I was them. I know you're like, I'm, I'm really embarrassed to be part of this. Had been from day one. Yeah, but you're still here bitch. Oh yeah.[inaudible] that's how I say I love you. Oh, that lasted 30 seconds. So here we are. Here we are, and we're back and we're back. Um, so what's coming up? There's a special date. Well, it had already passed, but it came up after our last episode. Oh, that's right. Yeah, we're past that. We're past that now hun. E wait till next year. National coming out day was on the 11th of October. Oh my God. So I remember that day. I think I thought about really coming out. I don't know if I could told my mom that day or not. It was like a big thing, but, okay. Do you have anything from that day? Oh yes, definitely. So an undergrad at this, you know, conservative Catholic school. Um, I remember on national coming out day when I was a freshmen, like in front of the dining hall, they had this booth set up, a big orange booth and there were like people that were a little alternative in front of it and it was like come out as, yeah, I'll tell it sir. I mean, their outfits were outside the norm. They were wonderful, you know? Right. Short hair on the girls. Beautiful. So they're like, come out as whatever you want. So I remember like a couple people went in and were like, came out as like I'm Brittany Spears fan and like just ridiculous thing. And I was like, Oh shit. So I did not come out that day, but I still thought it was a good idea. I made me think about it. Right. It makes you kind of like, but you always remember that two years later I did and Oh, I remember national coming out day forever because it was, I didn't know about it until that point. Right. Cause you, you ignore everything gay until that point. The guy, Oh God. Like wait, I just realized there's a day where people don't care and they want to help you. Oh one day a year. Just one. Just one. One shot. Here you go. You only got wild shot. I had never had done like the official posts. Like everyone I'm gay, like coming out. I don't want to, no, I don't either. But like I know people who did that. Like guys, I'm going to live my truth and I'm gay, but good for everyone. You know what I mean? Like, that's a good, yeah, if you can do that, great. That's a good step, you know, in, in life to come out as we talked about last episode. Hopefully you guys enjoyed my effort. Hopefully all heard the nine one. One call that Bobby had. We were laughing so hard about how it sounded like. Yes. What's your emergency? Hey it's cold. It was so bad but so good. But also a good story and I wish I had, I wish she had been in the studio until that cause I took a more clear situation. But nonetheless, um, so that's going to bring us into another topic. So why don't you come out folks, there's another thing then you get to worry about, you could fired at your job and so why do you come out like it's really great. It's good. Everyone's going to love it except your boss and your company and everybody alive. This kidding. What I mean like that's like, Oh yeah, everybody national coming out days on was on Friday so come out. But also don't come out at work though because you could get fired cause your boss could be an asshole. Right. And it's like no one has, I guess the law for some reason has an established, if sexual orientation and gender are protected under anti-discrimination laws. So we have all these issues going through the courts where it's like, Whoa, I'm a transgender woman. I was fired for being transgender. And the employer's like, well that's not in the law. It's just like sex. So you're not, we're not firing it cause you're a woman. Right. That's not why we fired you. And it's like[inaudible] so I'm not protected. So apparently the law was written in like 1964 or something like that. Like that's what they're referring to them for an update. Honey, we need an update on this whole constitution. I'm not going to lie. I mean we've got to get rid of the electoral college. We got to get rid of dead. Yeah. I mean like we don't have ban that's anymore. So maybe, I mean, I'm really a fan of the second amendment. Like you should have your fucking firearms. But like they were talking about a bayonet that shot like a pebble out at people. So let's not get too carried away with those. It's like the band, it's just the sharp knife part, but yes. So, well, what are the rifles? Yeah, no, I know. I mean, you know what I mean? It wasn't, they didn't have air 15 wasn't, it was like, yeah, hold on. Have a pellet gun. It's like you couldn't kill 600 people in 30 seconds. Then you stab them. Right. But now it's, you hit me in the chest, Oh, knife. And then you go out in the backyard, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And you're like, I'm just, I'm showing my right. Yeah. I'm at school. I just made protecting my whole Walmart like, Oh God, listen, I'm all for the sport of shooting. Like cool. Yeah. I just don't feel like, and I'm not going to get all into this shit right now to be like, you are. I am. But you are. But listen, you don't need a weapon, a weapon of war. You don't need a weapon of war to protect your house or to hunt. All these people were like, Oh, I'm a Hunter. I'm like, I love, I think that's great. We need Hunter, right. Go hunt away. Yeah. Did you hear about the deer? Oh my gosh. There's like zombie deer in Nevada or something like that. Oh, don't know. Yeah, they like walk around drilling like deer. But I w cause I always want to like pet them, don't pet the deer or so, and I guess people in Nevada like guarding the borders cause they don't want to, I know, but they're going to die. So there's zombies or they'll be rabies bite them and give them a, okay. Something, I don't know if there was an, I don't know how it's like kind of like, yeah, right before the coffee. Right? Like Zam Pat me drooling just right. Well. But yeah, so I don't know, back till the anti discrimination issue, there's a couple, there's a few cases before the Supreme court right now and it's uh, you know, it's like we have some of our rights, so like we, we can get married now, which is wow. Shit. I mean, no, it is actually shocking as a kid. I didn't think that was happening anytime now because even, even the liberal politicians didn't support it. No, it was, Oh, in 2008, it was like, no, marriage is between a man and a woman. You can get a civil union. Yeah. And it's like, Oh, thanks. I mean, but it's because our, that we can get married, but then when you find out we're married, you're gonna fire us. So it's like in some States don't let gay couples adopt. I just can't anymore because there's protections. Like if you're a religious group, then you don't have to let children be adopted by gay couple. And let's go ahead and just let him say a system and, yeah, exactly. Cool. As we learned about like, yeah, as we wonder, like Carrie, there's gay parents want to adopt but we're going to prevent them. Okay, got it. Got it. And it's protected. Cool. But like the other thing is we always have to worry about our rights being taken away. I mean, we are literally like one more Supreme court see away for moving to Canada. This, the Republicans are exact. I might look for homes in Montreal. I really might. I mean I want to go somewhere where I don't have to worry about that every day. Like, is Ruth Bader Ginsburg going to die? And then next thing you know, they're like, well actually, I mean gay marriage isn't explicitly discussed in the constitution. It's like, right, Oh, we're going backwards, going backwards. And the thing is is that I don't care for, I'm like, listen, politics or politics. Okay, everybody needs to vote regardless of who your choices. I'm going to just be very, listen, I'm just going to be very, what's the word I'm looking for? Even here, try. I'm trying to be trying. I don't, I'm not gonna be, we're good. We needed a and bleeding and we need a, I'm not trying to say like, I'm not, I'm not gonna like support what's going on right now. I'm not gonna be like, it's okay that you're voting for him, but at least you're voting, we want you to participate, but you need to get informed because you cannot be supportive of gay rights and be voting for one of the parties right now. Because for example, our vice president right now hates gay people. I mean, he's stated that, I think he's gay anyway though. Yeah. And when you call your wife mother, you've got to wonder. But yeah, this, I mean, this guy is like a heartbeat away. One cheeseburger away from the presidency. Well, one impeachment away from the presidency. Right. And he was almost judges who openly, right. Decisions that say gay people shouldn't have rights. So you have to wonder. I mean, we want you to participate, but you need to get informed big time. Yeah. Big time. Big time. So, so yeah, so that's that. You're like the voice in my head that I try to speak and then you're like, here's what he's trying to say. I'm like, say here, here's what we got to do. Well, we need a vote. You need a vote. I'm not, what's the word I'm looking for? I'm not trying to tell you what to do, and you're like, here's what's going on. Okay, we need to get informed. We need to learn. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, that, that's why I'm not going to be in politics. I'll be like, um, no. I don't really either. I get nervous and I guys, I don't want to rely on people's like opinion of me to like live my life so I can do politics. Right? I mean that's like a real big opinion of you. It's literally like vote like yes or no on my, on my positions. Me on you as a person, as your as cause people don't even vote on policies. I feel like people vote on personality, to be honest. It's all a popularity contest that always has been. You're like, wow, this woman has really great ideas. Like, wow, she's a woman. Maybe, I mean, she can't win, so[inaudible] and it's like, Oh, that's why. Okay, cool. Yeah, it's just bizarre. Honestly. Like the whole thing is kind of fucked. That's why I feel like we need a new outlook. Yes. This new system. Yeah. So, okay. Yeah. Um, next up is something I'm a little interested in fused. So basically I wrote, so I've been trying to find sponsors, right? Oh yeah. So I wrote like[inaudible] or we're still here. We're still here, we're still queer and we're still prepping you, so you need to it anyway. They're like, we're not looking for, we're not trying to sponsor, but I'm glad you drink. I'm like, you know what? I'm just going to, nevermind, you're running out of white claw, so you should probably buy my shirt that I'm using your name on a cease and desist. Yeah. Good. Listen to this. I dare you that at least some of them, they're listening when they bought it. When I get up at the door again, I'll be like, Oh, we going on a ride. He's like, no, here's some papers. You're like, is this the hot cop? I'm like, wait, are we going on a ride again? He's like, no, here's today papers from white claw. Like how embarrassing. Like the white claw, like stamp on the top signed white claw. Oh boy. Oh boy. You are a white clout law. That's right. That's kind of what we are. But then I wrote like BrewDog which is a beer company that's local, but also it's international from Scott. They are, but they like their United States. Teary is here in Columbus. Naoshima is awesome. Yeah, it's delicious. You don't really care, but it's good. It's good. So, um, so they wrote me and they're like, thanks. We don't really do sponsorships. And I was like, yes you do. I see you as like they[inaudible] themes and I see 100% do. So basically tell me I'm stupid. But I did. So I wrote this other company called bear. I think it's supposed to be like bare skin, but it's S K N. um, and don't know how to spell or I think it's just like their thing. I thought you did a spelling error. No. Okay. So, so I'm not getting the sponsorship. Um, so anyway, I was, I was like, hi guys. Like I'm Bobby and I have a podcast. I'm looking to really spread the word. Uh, and you know, I'm basically like, yeah, Brown knows in the show. I'm like on my knees, like Brown on my nose. I'm like, guys, you're the fast. And they're like, Oh, we're so glad what you, we're so happy for what you're doing. How many followers do you have? I'm playing, what are your analytics? I'm like, ah, well, we're Lynne, we're a newer podcast. We kind of plateaued, but we're not, we're still trying to gain traction. And I'm like, that's why we need you, because you have 26,000 followers. That word pod stall, pod fade, fade. We're not pod fading though. We're going, we're like the little engine that could, and we're going to keep going up the Hill until we're on. We're on the Conan O'Brien with us too. We're on that fucking Tim Ferris, that level. Like we're going up there. Wow. Up the Hill up there. You will hear us on the main page of iTunes one day. Wow. You'll see us. Wow. Okay. Anyway, Ken is like, yes, yes. So basically what I offered to them was, Oh, model your stuff. If you know we can work out a deal. It's kind of like not prostitutes, but you sent nudes. So I was like, you want a Dick pic for sponsorship? Okay, got it. Like that's not a problem number. My Craigslist stays like, I got this. Like, I'll get you over, we'll go ahead and just do this. But yeah, I'm like, I'll model, but that means I gotta put myself shirtless with no bears. It's like, yeah, my tents will be out in a harness or what? No, I could wear a harness. I could probably wear whatever I want, but I've got to have work them. Yeah, I've got to put those tits up. We can ask grant Vander. I'll just grouty hold them up. I'll just hold on. I'm like, yeah, no, I'm hot in the bear community. Sexy Nicholson has put little like pastries over or sticker Insta stickers over the news. Or I could do our, um, she's not doing swell pineapples over my nipples. Done promotion. We figured that out. You'll be the little mermaid. Duh. Oh, the coconut pineapple. I was gonna say she didn't have fucking pineapples. I always said the F word. Sorry. I'm working on it. So yeah. So, so you're a model right now? Basically I'm just waiting on my contract. So have your lawyer. Yeah. They're like, why is the podcast not updated? I'm like, well listen, I got a career now. I gotta go these tits don't lie. I've gotta start working out. Actually I don't like big and tall modeling is so big right now. No, it is actually one guy. Women and men. Yeah. I mean it's like an even on American Eagle. They have like I went through the, yeah, I went there a few weeks ago on his model. I loved it. I'm like, okay, I like the jeans. They were like this gene, the slim fit and a skinny fit had bigger guys. I was like, finally, I'm finally, you know? Yeah. Cause I mean in reality there's everybody, everybody is a different size, right? Yeah. I mean there's like you could wear any cut on any size like you could wear, you shouldn't be, have to wear like X year loose. We don't need that. Like shit. Right? Dana[inaudible], I'm Damian from mean girls. He's all about that big life and he's just like, he was saying something about how he never used to want to take off his shirt when he was younger and now he's like, I'm 40 like right, what am I doing? Wait, I'm going to go to the beach, I'm going to take off my shirt. I don't give a fuck. Like I can still get laid. And that's actually a really good point is that no matter how fat you think you are, you still can get laid. And that's it. That's the advice of the week right there. Lifetime. Like you can get laid no matter what size you are. I mean it's, I don't want to say this is going to sound really inappropriate. Oh God. Essentially when you preface this, and most guys don't care. Oh, like it depends on what you're trying to get out of it. Right? So if it's just a hookup, then like treat it as a hookup. Don't be like, you're just using me as me. Like, but you know what I mean? What I'm trying to say with gristle, I feel like I can't bear, he go, Oh, I'm starting a channel 100 a piece of me. Just a 10 minute every day. Just spraying and eating. Actually this one really good. Like I would listen. Thank you. Back to being a piece of meat that's low. I'm just selling myself sexually all the time. I'm going to whisper to people, I'm going to be in my underwear with my, my face these on the big mermaid. Anyway. Speaking of body shaming and body[inaudible], you're like, it's fine to be big and then you're like, Oh, I'm so fat, I'm so fat. But I'm also hairless a Y though. Let's see. I'm always confused by that. Okay, well I'm not going to go into the full detail. Well, some people think I'm doing it just for like sexual reasons, like, no. Okay. I had a surgery like, Oh my God, I'm really gonna say this, but while I'm doing it, can we go there? Yeah. And actually I'm going to, he has two holes. You might go, I mean, I don't, you did. You did. Okay. Let me just, sorry, find you tell about your holes. So I had a pilot, Nitel cyst. This is so discussing keep believe, maybe don't swindle it goes all the listeners don't judge me. I'm actually being honest because you know what, people have fucking other people have it and I use the F word cause I'm getting passionate. You hear that? I love it. Okay. So I had this problem where basically a on my tailbone area above like the top of my buck crack. It's actually supposedly my cousin had it too. Sorry for calling you out. Um, but like it's hereditary apparently. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah, but it's um, it's like a S they called upon line, I'll SIS, but it's really an abscess that forms and these little, so basically hair from your head can fall into your crack and because you're, you're somebody about, your cleft is different. Like that's where the hereditary part comes in. So you have like a big Clive, a deep cliff, deep cleft. Not anymore. Oh, well we did for a while. So basically the only way to get rid of it is you've got to, it was a hair from your head and then it goes in there and burrows into like, Oh no, Nope. Right. Or it could be a hair like on your body. But I'm not that hairy. You're not. I'm reprising Lee. I'm not, listen everyone, I'm a bear. But like my ass is not. And bare skin bear's not a lot of hair there. No. And now I'm hairless. Where? So here's where to go. How are you here list. So basically what we're getting into now is I have a laser hair removal appointment tomorrow and I am freaking the hell out. Why? Because I get my ass hole lasered a, well, first of all, I'm trying to Google. Well I was just going to get the top right because that's what my doctor recommended. Like they said, get rid of all the hair in the journal, like the low back, like the whale tail area and into the crack and into talker crack. It's called the pairing needle. No, I don't know. It's like around birth. I think that mean, I think like I'm prenatal vitamin. Yeah. Now that's probably not it, but no, but I just Perry Hill, whatever. So you can get just certain parts of your butt crack. Yeah. So you can get like areas. Yeah. Why? I don't know. I feel like if you're doing it, just do it all. But I had a custom get it done. I was like, listen, I just want the top part, whatever. So we had to pay though for the whole thing, like the whole enchilada. Right. So the first day I'm in there, she's like zapping and it doesn't hurt the first time. And she goes, I mean, you paid for all of it. So, and I was like, fuck it. Go for it. Let's do it. Like right. Like why not chilada the whole enchilada. So it's basically like mine. So I'm basically got a Brazilian laser removal. Okay. So what does it include up to in the front? My whole like, I don't think it includes taint. I don't know. At that point I'm, I blackout when I go to it now. But you haven't checked? No. Well yeah. But like, I don't really like, I'm not like going to stand on the mirror and like bend over. I'm not flexible anymore. First. I'm not 25 like take an ass with the pics. You can just never dance and like feel well. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Yeah. So I know it's very, it's around clean. It's like there's, I, man, I'm going to say this. This is going to some, I think I've said this before, I don't know. It's a clean sweep every time. And you can use whatever toilet paper you want because there's not going to be anything that gets caught. Oh, so sorry for the information. We'll apply regardless. My, the reason why I'm telling this story is because clean, I have a point tomorrow in the last session I went to was the hardest one and they said it's going to be like this, the next two and then I'm done. But I'm talking if you could take a rubber band and just smack it against your, Nope, no, no, not doing that. I'm scared. Like, I want to talk to Martin, I'm going to be like, listen and we're gonna have to go. It's funny the relationship you get with people who see your butt because like literally everybody has seen my whole, um, is that what it's like for waxing? Like when women go yeah, get, wow, it's so funny you just lay there and they're just like, so where are you going on vacation next? I'm like, Oh well you know, we just bought a house and put it in. It's like snapping and I'm like[inaudible] and I'm like, and she tries to talk to me cause she can tell him I go, Oh like I'll do that sometimes and she'll be like, so like she tries to like fart in her face. I mean nerves. I have to go in there and wipe my ass before we go. Like she's like some whites and here's some spray, but I always go clean. It was like some like weird spray that are coming in from the gym for this. Like, you don't know where these dirty acids are coming from and this is not the only area that gets on. You can get your balls done. I asked. So people are only pay with a rubber band slapping on their scrotum. The only thing that you cannot get done is your head. Why? I don't know. I would love to get the head done right. Never shaved my head again. Right. Done and done. But anyways, anyway, so I'm just telling you I'm terrified right now. That was basically the point of the story. I'm really sorry that you know my anatomy now. I'm fine. I feel great. I don't have the problem anymore and I'm heroin. I hope you don't. What if? Can you get it anywhere else? I can get it again actually in the same spot. Cause yeah, because you said it's hair from your head. It can be here from your head. So when I shower now I don't, I used to be like lean my head back and like then no, I wash my hair like I'm, I'm bent forward like literally, I've been forward like my ass. Like I'm wearing a Japanese Val. Yeah. I'm in a Japanese about washing my hair and I like make sure I get it all. And then I have this evil hairs. I'll want a burrow. Apparently when I have thick hair you do have I do. And pepper. And actually a lot of people say or not a lot of people like the doctors say after 40, your hair gets thinner so it won't burrow like it. So there's some, they don't really know. It's a really kind of a rare disease. And honestly, I'm really glad I'm talking about it to be honest because good for you. Thank you. I'm going to be an advocate for it because not a lot of people have the title advocate a lot. That's right. I'm going to start my own little pilot and I don't have 10 minutes every day. Oh yeah. So this all this is really bad. I mean it was pretty intense. But anyway, so if you had any tailbone pain, uh, go to the doctor. If you have a big bulge in your lower back, go, go. Cause it's not going to go away. You have to get rid of it, it won't go away. So, so anyway, so yeah. Yeah. Next thing I want to talk about is the fact that I was, you know, I researched for the show cause why not, you know, why not am I real job? Just work on the show.[inaudible] you always are emailing me in texts and I'm like damn, look at this. Are you at work? And like actually one of our other friends said that to to me, he was like, does Bobby work? I was like, Oh no, we've all thought it. Listen, I work and I do my job really well. Yes, daddy, I do all my jobs. Well, I'm going to come like yesterday when I, we, I was cleaning up a recording. I mean I sat in this chair until 10 o'clock. Oh yeah. Like I work two jobs. You're putting me too much. I'm going to add a new show called Westboro at the nine Oh whisper Westbeth and I listen to me before you fall asleep. Okay. I think it's going to be hot anyway. Anyway, so I'm researching, I'm researching and I'm, you know, cause I'm actually researching, uh, Trina winter. Uh, I know cause I'm getting prepared. Like I want to be prepared fully and I'm like, let me look up some and I was reading something about some terms. Yeah. I was reading like some trans terms and some just different things. And I'm like, I saw somebody said to spirit, well and I go, gee, Manji bright. So Manji we're going back to Magii. I remember when I heard to spirit, I'm like, is he making this up? Like what do you mean? What's a, what's a to spirit? Well people, it's something Oh yeah, fully real and has been for a very long time. Yeah. I mean apparently like this goes back thousands and thousands of years. Apparently a lot of cultures have it. I feel like it doesn't, um, but Western culture hates it. But like is it like Thailand or somebody? Like there's somebody that like lady boys isn't holiday. There's a lot. So I was going to yes to spirit. Speaking of that, there is kind of like, there's always, there's a lot of different cultures where there's a, at least a third gender if not more, right? Because we'll tell us what two spirit is and then maybe we can like kind of explore it. Right. Okay. So two spirit and quotes refers to a person who identifies as having both masculine and feminine spirit and is used by some D indigenous people to describe their sexual gender and or spiritual identity as an umbrella term. It can encompass same sex attraction and a wide variety of gender variance, including people who might be described in Western culture as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, gender queer cross-dressers or who have multiple gender identities too. Spirits can also include relationships that could be considered poly. So I feel like a two spirit is kind of everything. I mean, I don't know, like it's just non-binary. It's like not, I'm not a man, I'm not a woman. I'm not going to conform to anything sexually or my, my sexuality or my, what's my gender. Yeah. And I'll fuck all you and I'll fuck everyone. Wow. Always going back. Sorry again. So I'm at like eight right now with that. Sorry so much for the honey count. We've changed the game. I need to start doing a swear word count, like a quarter jar and a jar. And guess how many we're saving you. Money will have a jelly bean jar out and you guys can guess how many jelly beans are in there and you'll win the money from the swear jar. But, so like talking about other cultures, I've always been interested by this, the fact that there are cultures that are non Western where it's like, Oh, so there are other ways to express yourself and you can be not straight and it's okay. And these people were generally accepted by like one of them, the, there's a group called the Hegira in India, I think in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, that whole area. And I think some of them are Unix, but like they're typically like, I think born male and then our transgender dresses women. And they actually played important roles like family, right? They'd be performers. They would be, um, they'd help with ceremonies, a big of public events. I mean they were accepted. And then the British came in and made it wrong, informed them and said, yeah, that they're cross-dressers there, it's inappropriate, it's evil and try to eliminate them from society. So now they're kind of on the margins, right? So that's just one group in one particular area of the world. But this happened all over the world. The Western people showed up Europeans and said, sorry, you don't fit our mold. This is wrong. You are their man or a woman and you better be straight. Right. It just like happened everywhere we went. I mean every culture where there was this other expression, right, it was tried to be, we tried to snuff it out. It's bad, it's bad, it's real bad. So I feel like we're coming back though, like we need to learn from history and just allow people to be who they are and just who cares? Like stop worrying about everybody else and worry about your damn self. Yeah. And those who are worried usually are that thing in general. So like Mike Pence is so concerned about the gaze. But honey, you're probably honey counting it, but you're probably at the bathhouses in D C secret service all around. Okay. That sounds like your own personal fantasy. But I want him to have a hot daddy. Oh, Nord. Just stick with Anderson Cooper. At least he's nice. Yeah, true.[inaudible] he's not a hot daddy. Well not pens is not a hot daddy. I don't know. It's like wow, this is CBD. But I think we need to maybe talk with Manji again. Yeah, we're definitely gonna I actually need to write him. Yeah. I want to have him on when my friend Ashley's in town. I think he would be happy to explain it. Yeah. Cause I feel like when we talked to him, I was on the street and I was drinking and he was drinking. So like let's talk about it sober and like, I want to really hear what you got. Yeah. You know. Alright. I like it. Cool. Um, there's some other things coming up here in the fall. Yeah. Fall is basically the, I mean, the theme of the episode, even though we haven't even mentioned fall until just now. This is kind of like the um, rural America one. Yeah. We're like this about falling. It's like every other thing. We just talked about culture to two spirits to India to let's talk about the fall and now we're going to go switch it over to the fall leaves and cold leaves called the dark PSL. Oh my God, I need my PSL. Can I get extra pumps? I mean, I don't even know how to order it. I'm so intimidated at Starbucks. They're like, yeah, all right. You macchiato or not even lard. It's like non day macchiato with four pumps of express non-fat sugar-free two pump and it's like pumpkin spice latte, half calf. I swear the number of things you can add on to just what is essentially a coffee drink, right? It's like, it's ridiculous. It's like, it takes two minutes to say, and then they always rearrange it because they're taught to, but then they can't spell the person's name. The milk comes after this syrup and so you have to say[inaudible] and I'm just like, can I just, Oh, can I get a grand day? Um, vanilla frappuccino. They're like, uh, you don't want anything else? I'm like, no, I'm Dariana grand day. And what's your name? Bobby. Okay. Lobby. One moment please. How big is the lie? I always fucking get the names wrong. I feel like that's number nine for the F word. Oh my gosh. It's getting bad. I've saved like$2 already. Gosh, okay. Yeah, I think the fall is very funny to me. Like it's such as everybody starts getting into this, like literally one day you're wearing your shorts and your flip flops and tank tops and the next day everybody's like, well gosh, like literally where we are, where we live. That's why it does happen. 94 degrees the next day. It was in this low. Same October. It was 94 degrees here. Yeah, and by November 1st wonder what? It could be November 1st it could be 40 yeah, it's probably actually the only will on Saturday, so we'll be like 52 below. Today is 46 so it's going to be cold. I can't wait. I'm ready. I'm a sweater. So this is like, it's Swatow lava. It's sweater weather and I can sweat and not really sweat and lay years. We can do layers. We can be thicker. That's why we're thick. This is why I'm thick. I love it because of the fall and winter. Yeah, let's blame the seasons. Yeah. And then so we're not being like why am I still let it go? My gosh, Michael was so mad and I know I get, so we had a pizza, we had two pizzas last night after we were like editing and stuff and so we have whatever reason, we both ate a whole pizza. They were like small pizzas. But were they small like 1314 and Oh fuck. It's not that small. Often there was number 10 I'm not small by any means. It's small enough. It's small and thin and it's from like a, it's good. Oh my gosh. And their ranch, ah, up that ranch is something else. Like I could drill. I mean I do. So there we are with our, each have a huge couple of ranch to me I would say it's probably five tablespoons of ranch at least. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. At least to have at least three quarters of a cup maybe. Yeah. And so, and a whole pizza. So we eat them and Jim leaves for the night. I'm upstairs editing some more and I hear uh, Bobby, can you come down here? And I'm like, what did you get? I was like, did you get me a cheat at the store? Like I needed anything more to eat. Like, did you get ice cream? He's like, no, just come down here. I'm like, okay. So I go down and he looks at me and he goes, did you guys really eat all the pizza? And I said, well see what had happened was, yeah, you blamed it on Jim. You're like, Jim had a pizza. Jim made me. Meanwhile I was supposed to eat like onions and peppers and like Turkey sausage. Wait. Yeah, they didn't have any Turkey sausages at Kroger. The days we had to get chicken. But anyway, like I'm like, I'm ready for my three-point meal. And then it turned into 300 so thanks Jim. That's what friends are for. That's what friends are for. He's like, if I'm getting thick, you're getting thick and you're not even thick, let's hammer ragging you down with me. Oh, I know you're not there and I, Oh, you're not the only one bear skins looking at, Oh, okay mom. She going into the bear game now. I had a harness and I was like, yes. He's like, yeah, I'm a bear. I'm ox. I'm actually actually, I'm auction honor. I'm an auditor. So, um, what are some things we'd like to do in the fall? I love to go Apple picking, you know, I love getting the pictures in front of the apples and just like putting them all over my Insta and I'm like eating them now. Ill no, actually I make a really awesome fat-free, you can say mean. I feel like you're going to say it guy was, but I was like, that's free app. I mean fat free, Apple crisp in the, why is it fat free? I remember that time. I thought I had gallbladder problems. I don't need to remember.[inaudible] acid reflux. Well I was like, I got to eat fat free and my gallbladder. I have stones. I just know it. You are such a mess now. I found this recipe. They'll, I had fat free vanilla ice cream, fat free, Apple crisp, but it ended up being so good. Cause you use cinnamon, you'll get just pure sugar. No cinnamon. Oh there's no sugar. Oh there is no sugar. Ha it's cinnamon. Nutmeg, apples. Oh the only sugar that's in it's maple. Oh there's a little bit of maple syrup. That's a touch. Just a touch. It really is only like four cops. It's not, it's probably the maple syrup is so much. I actually think it's like maybe a quarter of a cop, but it's for a whole big crop and then you put like cornstarch in there, the thick of it. I'll make it for you. I can't wait to eat it. It's really good. I'll eat the whole car. No, it really is good. Like in that. And then you pour it over ice cream de Oh, it's the best. It's so good. So that's why I go Apple picking. Actually, I've never been Apple picking. I feel a leaf peeping. I don't even know what that is. Okay, well looking at those leaves corn mazing I've never been to a corn maze either. I'm probably too tall. Yeah. People aren't like eating. I'm like, no, I'm just, just follow that big head head over there and we can get there. No, I've never been. Have you done a corn maze? I have and they're terrifying. I feel like you're probably so basic in the fall. I'm sorry. I've done everything. I've gone peeping. I know what a corn maze is. I, I make corn mazes. Did you, have you ever taken a hot air balloon, Ryan? I want to, so that's my worst nightmare. You're just like floating. Actually. We should record an episode and hot everyone. No, you won't be able to talk. You're going to be on the ground like I can't look, listen, I'd be afraid this basket is going to fall out underneath me. You, it's like a rustling sound. Like they're like, Oh, and then just opens up and you follow your ground. You're like, I'm done. I'm done. They're like, throw these sandbags. I'm like, Oh God, like what's happening? They're like, we gotta lighten this load. Like throw him overboard. Wait sir, sir, can you go, here's the parachute. You gotta go. I'm like, ah. That'd be actually hysterical. That would be hysterical. If we could do it. I'd be so, you're right. I'd be on the bottom of the basket and I'm looking out. I remember when I was like eight, we all, all like hundred 50 of my extended family set my great grandpa up in a hot air balloon at a park and he never, he loved it. Oh he never, he went to heaven and he went to heaven. That's how grandpa went to heaven. No grandpa. God. That's how his ashes got up there. You're like, how about hayrides I've done that. I always do a hayride my birthday in the past I've done the pumpkin patch. Tell him to pick where you go. Like, Oh, we're gonna going to hate riding in the pumpkin patch and we have tighter birthday this year. Like, Hey Ryan, do you want to go Apple picking? And then you can make me that dessert told you it's going to be cell-based ever. Oh my God. And we'll get something ESL. Let's get some pumpkin waffles and we'll have PSLs on the way. Well the other thing in the fall, DSL to every year is our local queen. Yes. Queen queen Nina, Nina West, she does this heels of horror and thank God she's still doing it even though she's famous and getting it in Oscar and blah blah blah. Yeah, she could have an Oscar, but she's still coming back and doing it for showing her love unconditionally. It's not a meeting series. It was, we'd always been weekends too. That's why. So I'm very happy that she's every year, like five years in a row now and now I don't know if I'm gonna be able to go. Actually I remember looked and it was like literally there, there's like all the tables are gone. I'm like, why you get the presale email? And it was gone. Right, cause you, cause I was at work and you're like, Hey yeah, let's like, like Hey I'm doing stuff at work for the podcast but I am at work, let's purchase two hours later. Gone. Unbelievable. But it's going to be good. It's always going to be good because, and honestly I think she should take it on the road next year. I think she should get this shout out of sane. Like she needs to get a cast of the big, like she needs to take her mother Virginia though. Cause Virginia runs that Virginia and now that Nina has been busy, right. Virginia is like running the show. She is, she's got all her children, grandchildren, whatever. They are grown up, they're grown up like last summer at the local gay bar and there's like a little show on the stage in the back. I was like, these people are now headlining the show. Right. It's, you can tell me shit. You know like Nina is gone for a lot of the time and now these people are stepping up because you don't, if you're not from where we're from. Yeah. See Nina is very much, she's in, she is the star of every show, every show like Nina everywhere and Virginia machine. Virginia did have a show like Virginia's grandmother once a year, which I mean we can go into drag it another episode cause that's actually, yeah, probably like what the hell is the mother, mother. But anyway, basically in drag you have a mother and that's the person that basically mentors you into being a drag queen you. So Virginia has always been very outspoken in the community. She's, she is on pride is always right up where these protest, right are just standing there being herself. Right. Just saying, get the hell out of mole drag, right? Like, Nope. Yep. Nope, Nope. So anyway, so Nina was spawned from her and now Nina's running the show and the world like that is like owning it. When you go on her Instagram, it's like, Oh, she's like, Oh look, I'm sorry I had coffee with Taylor Swift. I'm like CEO of Disney. And yeah, it's like, I mean, every day there's something new she, yeah. And good for her, you know, I mean a lot of[inaudible] probably like hating and a lot of hating. Yeah. Like, Oh, you know what I say, go for it right now because everything does sort of, he said this the other day on her story, she said something like this only happens once. Like you got to go for it. Yes. Like you're hurting back. Right. This happens once in a lifetime where you become this famous after being on a show, right. Not happening again and do over. She doesn't get to do over, do all stars, but she probably will. She should. She 100% should. But you're right, you gotta take your opportunity by the horns and go cause you don't know when your next opportunity could be. It could be, you could have opportunities from here on out. She better be thirsty. That's what my friends stay thirsty. My friends stay for thirsty. My friends say 30 stay 30 my friend. Good luck with that. So well, so do you have a favorite food? But in the fall, in the fall I'd definitely like start going more towards soups. Same like I and I like them more. Cause in the summer it's hot and you're like, Oh God, it's a hustle of a soup. But, but now it's like I want it. What's your favorite soup? It might be like, I don't know. I don't know Mayan Chiney without that a I'm vegetarian, but you can use a simply, my fiance calls it chili soup. So he thinks it's a soup? Yes. Oh, I didn't know Chilean was considered a soup, I guess in some parts of the world it is. I like tomato soup. Oh we, okay. Yeah. Grilled cheese with sourdough bread and monster cheese stop. Oh, and watch it. What up? Oh my God. But what if the grilled cheese has a little bit of fruit spread in it? Have you ever tried that? Okay. No, but you know what? I have tried. Michael's good. Michael puts mustard and it's good. Oh, I believe that. Oh yeah. I've never done the fruit spread. What do you mean for like, because I'm think about like a, a cheeseboard like you always like, you put a little bit spread a little bit of delicious jam pear jam app. I mean, Apple, I can not with a grill. Cheese is so good. I've never had it. I'm making yeah, just make me want to have it right now. I'm starving. So yes. So there's also a really big thing that happens to everybody in the fall. Um, seasonal effective disorder. Yeah, that is, that happens to me. Oh, what is, what is that coupling? What's fat? Apparently the kids nowadays couple. So what happens to like day, fall? So it gets to fall and they're like, I need to find somebody for the week for the holidays. And right now it's like a prime time. Oh, so, Oh to show your family, right? That you're human. This is so and so. And they're like, Oh, how long you been dating? Three weeks. Um, I love ya. It's always like, how long you been together? Uh, yesterday. Well, technically last night, like late last night and late, like after the bar, I was like, Oh, did you meet organically or what? Um, yeah. So that's a new thing that I've never heard of. Right. So what would you say? Honestly, bad fall things are what's bad in the fall. Like I said, seasonal factors is where every year I am just, you get it. Oh yeah, it's bad. Oh, I love, there's a good few weeks where I, I love the weather. Don't get me wrong. I love wearing what I'm wearing. I like wearing pants. I like wearing long sleeve shirts, light coats, whatever. No, but I feel depressed for like three weeks. It's really bad. Anxiety and depression into March or is it? No, that's the best thing is by November it's gone. And I'm like, Oh sure. It's going to, I love winter. Christmas is coming. I can't wait to put up decorations. Oh wow. It's like right now it's happening now. Yeah, it's bad on gym. I wake up and I'm just like, well, you're going to Portland, you're going to Montreal. So hopefully that like we Oh yeah, it's a good vacation. I'm going to have a lot of fun. Okay. Wow. What else? Bad in the fall though. Well, I mean honestly the time changes. Yeah. I mean I like it but I don't. Wow, hard to please hard completed. I like it but I don't, that's my final answer. Okay. Maybe it up on it. Shit, I'm out. But yeah, I think getting dark earlier. Like I wish the sun is setting so early.[inaudible] you felt like you'd get home from work, you felt you still had time to do things now I'm like no, I get home and I'm like, Alexa, turn on living room lamp. It's like it's bedtime. Yeah. I'm like Oh no it's not. It's all, I mean I told them I've been going home at four 30 lately cause I just leave work now cause sorry, I have worked great out though folks. Does he work? I have a second job I have to get to. Okay. Um, and that's helped helping all of you. What does that little crack, did you hear crack? I heard a crack say crack. Crack is whack. So yeah, the time change is like definitely something that I think is hard to adjust to and I like it in the holiday time. But my thing is this, I love this point until new year's day after that I needed to start ready bang. Not even spring, but just like I need you to shift back the light and I need you to shift back the weather. Like in a perfect world, I would love for it to snow starting, um, November 1st until January 1st. Wow, that's it. That's it. You're probably going to get that wish soon with climate change. So here's the weird part. With climate change, it's going to be dark like this with the light like this, but it'll still be hot. It's not going to be like, Oh, it's the middle of a, it's the middle of November and the lights, you know the sun setting sooner, but it's going to be like 80, like change daylight then. No, this saving the way the earth, the sun and the moon and the stars earth is going around. The sun doesn't[inaudible] it's just the temperature. Listen today at work, one of the guys was like, he doesn't get it. I do a okay. But also we, we the light won't change is it? No. Yeah. Anyway, so those are bad things about fall. But um, tell me about some good things that might be coming up next week. Oh boy. Cause I am sorry. Okay. We have a guest coming in, one of the A-listers, I don't like God. He's scared. Yes, I'm stomping. He's so nice. It's, and I'm going to feel like they're going to judge quote unquote a Lister because here's the thing, we're gonna do a episode on perception and be like, just how you perceive people. And I'm going to be nervous too, to be honest. I don't like, yeah, this is a good test for Montreal for Trina because this is going to be like a different person that's not in our circle that one of us doesn't know. Okay. So I mean I've, I've obviously hung out with him and talk to him like, but brief, it hasn't been like anything. You're not, I'll be diving deep into his life where I don't know anything about him. I like it, but we're going to talk about, you know, what it's like to be on his side of things and things that he's in a big group of people who, and he might want people to come up and talk to them and people don't cause they're like, Oh yeah, he's not gonna have time for me. Or Oh, he's an a Lister. Which that term is so annoying. Like I'm an a Lister. I'm sorry I will in your own world. Yes, no, in this world. Oh, thank you. So signing off. And that's been another, I mean it basically has, um, but yeah, so we're going to have, have that on and then we're going to do the Montreal thing, which we already talked about before, but I'm really hoping that up. This is like, it's good. Um, and then I don't know what else. We have a lot of stuff coming up. Actually. I need to talk to Aaron hot. Aaron in Chicago. If you're listening white, we are wanting to do a remote soon. Oh, you're going to do a remote podcast at Aaron. First of all, he lives on like the top Florida nonpublic television. We'll have a video of that. Yeah, cause I'm going to be free. He wants to meet a record, like on the edge of his balcony. Like he's going to push me over. I don't know. I don't really know him. But bring your pair of shoes. Kidding. He's not gonna push me over. I'm too heavy. He's gonna push, but you won't budge. He's like, here, let's test your skill. Let's test how vulnerable you really are, bud. I'm like, sorry, this balcony has a weight limit. I need you to come inside. And that's like my biggest fear on those kinds of like, you know, like I can't, I can't, I'm already freaking out. So he's like, yeah, come on. I'm like, okay, let's do it. I think he wants to start a podcast actually, who's talking about doing a hangover one, which sounds terrible, but actually it could be really funny if like you wake up on a Sunday morning and he starts recording, like hung over. Like what happened last night? Oh, it would be funny, but are you're going to kill your body on the body? But you know how like I didn't like that idea. Have you ever with your friends, like after a night of drinking, you wake up the next day and you're all like kinda hung over, but you're still like functionable and you're like, can you believe Sarah last night? Oh my God, I don't hold her hair. When all of a sudden this story comes out. You're like, Oh yeah, all know. And so like Jim knows one part of the story. Then I'm like, Oh yeah. And then I was talking to so-and-so and that's when X, Y, Z happened and every starts putting it together and you're just, I think that'd be really funny podcast. I do. That would be hilarious. Aaron, follow your dreams and start a podcast. I see you soon and we'll see you soon. And you know what else? We'll see all the rest of you soon as well because we got to go, we got to go. But thank you so much for attending. That's right. 10 days before attending another[inaudible] of she's not doing so well. I am Bobby and I am Jan. Thank you for listening. Thank you. Good night and good. Writtens and good. Okay, come on Jim. Good, good.[inaudible] thank you. Wow. I was really blank in there. I didn't know idea what you want me to say. Really honey, honey by the honey counts gone. It's back, honey honey. Bye bye. Bye.

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